Vulnerablility! ^^

[SapphireSong]

lol so I'm a creative writer, and I absolutely love writing all kinds of plays and stories

Lately, in reflecting on both my thematic writing habits and this fetish... I'm beginning to wonder.

Is it possible to have a vulnerability fetish? heehee

I get such enjoyment out of 'torturing' my main characters! - especially the guys. XD My favorite thing to do is create (or borrow lol ^^) a guy with a bunch of character flaws and reform them out of him by means of a variety of different unpleasant devices (one of the easiest and most natural of which, incidentally, happens to be illness!!! hehehehe )

But even in other people's stories, movies, etc... I positively *melt* whenever a guy is in pain... cries... gets emotional... is sick...

And if he sneezes? Well...

So basically, vulnerability in my preferred gender makes me happyyyyy ^^ Thoughts? Comments? Anyone else feel this way?

[Skiffy]

Maybe that's an additional fetish for you. From reading stories and fanfiction on here, I think it might be quite common among sneeze fetishists. Vulnerability definitely makes me feel more affectionate towards folk, but I don't think it has much to do with my fetish. Although I like the idea of being there for someone I care about when they're ill or in pain, I wouldn't say it turns me on. But someone I find attractive sneezing- that's just plain sexy. With added "Aww" bonus for vulnerability.

[Pilgrim]

I've always sort of assumed that was a thing. It seems like it's too strong a theme in a lot of fics not to be a separate deal. And I can most definitely relate

[GenerousNose]

Maybe that's an additional fetish for you. From reading stories and fanfiction on here, I think it might be quite common among sneeze fetishists. Vulnerability definitely makes me feel more affectionate towards folk, but I don't think it has much to do with my fetish. Although I like the idea of being there for someone I care about when they're ill or in pain, I wouldn't say it turns me on. But someone I find attractive sneezing- that's just plain sexy. With added "Aww" bonus for vulnerability.

I hear you ScotGirl. I have fantasies about fit guys in bed with thermometers in their mouths looking kinda pale and vulnerable. If there is a box of tissues there and some cute sneezing and nose-blowing so much the better. Maybe I have a sort of Florence nightingale complex!

[sneezytwilight]

Vunderability makes me go and and I just want to be there if I know they are sick or suffering. I guess vunerability of people adds to my reaction

[NoV]

Vulnerability in terms of not being able to control sneezing is something that really does it for me - vulnerability in terms of pain and sickness, not so much. For me it's the actual act of sneezing rather than the conditions that have made them sneeze in the first place. I understand the desire to take care of someone, which I suspect is tied in tightly with feeling empathy for people in vulnerable situations

[doggo]

Well I sort of feel this way too. For me "awwww" and "sexy" are very obviously tied to eachother. I still have hard time understanding how. But that's why I like to talk about "awwgasm"

[Honkytonklagoon]

I think vulnerability is a big part of this fetish. I wonder if a person had a vulnerability fetish, would they be turned on to a variety of vulnerabilities. smileyfacegirl, you seem to be answering yes to that question.

[BananaTree]

Oh, I am exactly the same it's so wonderful

[SomeoneRandom]

I'm definitely into vulnerability. I agree that it may not be as sexual in nature as my love of the sneeze, but it makes me feel all "aww" inside. Right now, my boyfriend is sick, without sneezes, and I'm going crazy babying him.

[Firefly]

Ooh, I secretly LOVE seeing a guy vulnerable!! Especially if that guy is normally very tough-acting and/or not likely to show much emotion. When they sneeze, and then get mildly embarrassed.... yup, I love that. I've had several fantasies about nurturing a sick boyfriend. I wouldn't say that I like to see a guy crying, but it really makes me sympathetic for them.

[Tangerine]

If it is a fetish, I think I have it. I positively melt at the sigh of a vulnerable man. Particularly sick. Especially, a tough and/or stoic character. Oh yes.

[sillystarsmoons]

Vulnerability I love it. Particually if it's a guy with a cold, all sick oh a guy crying and emotional it makes me melt.

[Chanel_no5]

Vulnerability is definitely a huge thing for me. I love to see a strong, self-confident, arrogant woman vulnerable - preferably from allergies, of course.

[Scion]

So I just found this thread now, but ... "I positively *melt* whenever a guy is in pain... cries... gets emotional... is sick..." Yes.

I'm unhealthily obsessed. Can't read a book without waiting for these types of things to happen and if they don't I get so pissed off and basically I don't care about any other scenes that don't involve this which is just weird. 'Cause other people read/watch things just because they enjoy the story, but I only read/watch things specifically for "these" parts. And as a writer it's particularly annoying b/c all I really want to write about is, you know, a guy being vulnerable, but clearly this is not a plotline, so I basically have to force myself to write the other scenes. In the end, most of my books end up being about this dude who suffers. I WANT to be interested in other aspects of writing, plots that don't revolve solely around a guy whose life is one torment after another. And also, forcing myself to make females suffer is tough. Sometimes I plan it out, but then don't do it when the time comes, but once in a while I can force myself. I sound so totally evil right now, wow.

That is all.

[Lookatthelight]

I'm glad people here feel comfortable talking so openly about this - I am exactly the same. I don't think non-fetishists can understand this as I myself find it very weird that I can get hot and bothered over vulnerability in a guy- emotional or otherwise.

Maybe I have a sort of Florence nightingale complex!

That's a good way of putting it! Oh well, as long as we don't go round deliberately hurting real people I suppose there's no harm done!

[Scion]

Yeah, if someone I knew in real life was actually suffering I would NOT enjoy it at all, but I'd love to be there for him and give him lots of hugs.

[alias]

Vulnerability. It's alllllll about vulnerability.

I actually discovered this when I was trying to explain to my friend my affection towards sneezing and other things, and this is the common ground we found between everything.

Sneezing is always my favorite, but from the right person, coughing, fevers, injuries, pain, all those kinds of things can be equally wonderful. And I have no shame in saying so. I love it when characters are vulnerable, and I love it on multiple levels. On one level, it is moving when they are essentially sprawled open (figuratively) and you connect with them in a deeper way than you have before, and you feel for them and understand them. On the second level, it is unabashedly sexy.

[murphy dee]

I've always loved vulnerability. Some of my favorite books growing up were ones with scenes in which a male character was ill or injured, and I'd read those parts over and over and over again (my very favorite was Dragonlance's Raistlin, oh goodness that man...). Though I don't have a fetish for it exactly, I probably love it even more than sneezing.

[_Daisy_]

Oh, God. I deeefinitely feel this. In same ways it almost feels like it overlaps with the sado-masochism thing. I'm not really into the guy being all vulnerable-- I'm definitely the passive one-- but I love the whole concept of hurt/betrayal followed by excessive comforting/shame.

[Scion]

I've always loved vulnerability. Some of my favorite books growing up were ones with scenes in which a male character was ill or injured, and I'd read those parts over and over and over again (my very favorite was Dragonlance's Raistlin, oh goodness that man...). Though I don't have a fetish for it exactly, I probably love it even more than sneezing.

YES. I always go back and re-read these kinds silly scenes over and over. It gives me such a warm, happy feeling. I'm sounding more evil by the second lol. The scenes are usually not long enough, so sad. I have a list of every book I've ever read with hurt/comfort scenes.

[murphy dee]

I have a list of every book I've ever read with hurt/comfort scenes.

Ohhhhh goodness~ If you're ever so inclined, I would love if you could share it sometime.

[Coffee Mug]

I'm into the vulnerability aspect too. I like it in real life too, I mean, if I had to choose between a strong, 100% healthy, with super high self esteem guy and a guy who would be a little bit weaker, or a little shy, I definitely would chose the second guy! And I would like if he would wear glasses and couldn't see very well. So it's not just the "usual" cold/allergies stuff .

I'm a reader, and I found myself browsing for books with male characters with weakness, obviously my favorites being illness from colds/allergies but I'm also into asthma and also other things like deafness, but only partial, so the character still can hear but has difficulties, or has a slight stutter, or has mobility issues (being on a wheelchair). Things like that.

I know I'm strange.

Obviously never would i want my partner (or anyone else!) to struggle with one of these issues in real life but I have a soft spot for weakness and like to fantasize about them, although it is not a turn on for me, just a warm feeling, a feeling of protection. That's it

[SneezeformeKristen]

I'm sooo glad I'm not the only one that finds weakness super cute. I feel kinda evil and sadistic :/ and I especially love crying

[Lookatthelight]

Yep I know I've already commented on this (facebookbrain.com lol) but I am so intrigued that so many of us have a thing for ... ugh ... dareIsayit ... crying! Furthermore, I thing "hurt/comfort" is a good way to term this aspect of our sexuality. Does anyone else get a bit guilty over this though? I don't like to think I'm enjoying someones pain, it can't be helped! I don't know how many times I've re-read the scene in gone with the wind where Rhett gets upset over Scarlett falling down the stairs. I've even found myself a bit turned on by THOSE bits of Phantom of the Opera!

Male vulnerability - normal brain = oh dear, how sad; fetish brain = ooooooooh

Oh well.