Oh no

[kilala]

So my 21st birthday is coming up, and what do I want? My first tattoo [the word forgiven on my wrist], a piercing [my nose for the third and hopefully final time], and a snake [a brazilian rainbow boa]. I went to a reptile expo with my friend J saturday and we both fell in love with a pair of boas, the guy offered to sell us each one for $125 a piece [which is good considering how rare and exotic this snake is]. We wanted to do it but the vendor who had the snakes had a show in KY the next day, but told us if we each send him a $50 dollar deposit he would hold them for us until he got back down here on the 16th, a week after my birthday. Anywho, I had this forum pulled up on my laptop, and my mom said 'let me see a picture of the snake [she loves them too] so I clicked in the search box and typed in Brazilian rainbow boa and it brought up pictures. I pulled one up to show her then wanted to show her another one, so I hit back once, and me being impatient hit it again, which brought me right back to this forum with my mom staring at the computer screen! What's worse is when I clicked foward it took several seconds to get back to the snake pictures, and I know she got a very good look at what I had been looking at. I just said 'whats that?' then continued with the pictures as if nothing happened, and she didn't say a word about it. But I'm not stupid and neither is she, I know she saw the big words in the top right corner that says sneeze fetish forum.

Kill me please?

[Maxx]

Haha, those moments, most of us have a couple of them. Dont worry it shoudlnt have any impact on your life just carry on being normal

Btw she probably isnt sure what to think about it, she doesnt have to think you are one of us right now. You probably learned you have t be careful with information on pc.

Will you show youre tattoo? (A)

[murphy dee]

Uggghhhh, what a nightmare. I really, really hope she didn't see anything.

[Sawyer]

Ah, that's always so embarrassing! Don't worry though, she didn't say anything and it doesn't seem like she was weirded out too much. I doubt she thinks you frequent this forum or anything, and if she does, she probably doesn't really care and will forget about it in no time. No harm done! It's likely it won't ever be mentioned. Don't worry about it!

[The Dude]

That banner has been the bane of our existence, and a constant source of awkwardness and paranoia since the beginning.

Why again can nothing be done about this?

[LoraLee2]

i agree with the above posts, if she didnt say anything then she probably wont bring it up again. looks like you dodged a bullet there my friend

[kilala]

Thanks guys, I feel alot better now

I guess it's really not a big deal, its probably one of those things she just wants to forget she saw and not think about what it could possibly mean. I did get pretty lucky there, I'm so glad she didn't ask why I was looking at it or something

And yea I will definitely show my tattoo for anyone who wants to see it, I'm very excited about it

[Vetinari]

That banner has been the bane of our existence, and a constant source of awkwardness and paranoia since the beginning.

Why again can nothing be done about this?

If you go to the very bottom of the forum, right down in the corner, left hand side, you will see a little box with the words: IPB 2.2.0 Default

It has a drop down option. If you click on the drop down option you will have a choice of the normal "Default" setting or IP Board Pro

If you choose IP Board Pro then at the top of your screen, instead of the words "Sneeze Fetish Forum" appearing in huge lettering, there are the words IP-Board from Invision Power. The words Sneeze Fetish Forum are there but they are tiny.

I use mine on that setting all the time.

[Skiffy]

If you go to the very bottom of the forum, right down in the corner, left hand side, you will see a little box with the words: IPB 2.2.0 Default

It has a drop down option. If you click on the drop down option you will have a choice of the normal "Default" setting or IP Board Pro

If you choose IP Board Pro then at the top of your screen, instead of the words "Sneeze Fetish Forum" appearing in huge lettering, there are the words IP-Board from Invision Power. The words Sneeze Fetish Forum are there but they are tiny.

I use mine on that setting all the time.

Thank you, Vetinari!

And Kilala, just think of all the weird things you randomly investigate online all the time (or maybe it's just me). Your mum, if she could see what this site was, probably assumed it was one of those one-off, curiosity-fuelled moments when you end up on some completely bizarre tangent-

Checking out tattoos, piercings, snakes, wait- sneeze fetish? What's that? Oh, there's a forum too? Hmm, I'll just click on that link...

[NoV]

I think it always pays to have a conveinient excuse ready in case something like this happens - mine has always been 'oh a friend sent me these weird links to check out'. Not sure if anyone would believe me... Be ready to lie with confidence!

[Hankysneeze]

I feel sick for you

[lemonade]

omg. i had a dream like that once. it was so freaky. he didnt see all of the words, but i had to make up something really fast. then i woke up.

[Just Older]

I tend to agree with ScotGirl on this one. I've had some pretty interesting chain reaction searches on my computer. I went from something completely innocent and normal to weird and completely off topic. I think that if your mom thought anything of you having a fetish forum open on your screen, she'd have made some kind of comment on it then and there.

[Icee]

oh, boy. i've been trying to figure out if my parents need to know for a while, but i prayed it wouldn't happen like that. poor you. but maybe it wouldn't be so bad if she knew?

[Firefly]

Once, when my mother thought I was being too secretive about what I did on the computer, she shoved me out of the seat and clicked on...to my horror....Bondi's .wav page. I pleaded with her to stop, but she ignored me. Finally, I gave in and hid in the bathroom, close to tears. She knows, I know she does. Urgh.

[Vetinari]

You know, even if parents think the whole thing is a bit odd, there are worse things you could be looking at than this site or Bondi's wav page. I hope that any parents who do find out feel able perhaps to come and check us out. We take a lot of time and care to try to ensure this site is suitable for use by members of all different ages from teenage upwards. Personally I think it is good to be able to explore your sexuality, and I hope that other parents are open-minded enough to feel the same way if they do stumble across it by accident.

Edited March 29, 2011 by Vetinari

[Skiffy]

oh, boy. i've been trying to figure out if my parents need to know for a while, but i prayed it wouldn't happen like that. poor you. but maybe it wouldn't be so bad if she knew?

While I don't think any of us should be ashamed of what we're into, I don't think it's any parent's business to know. I definitely don't think they NEED to know, webgiz. I have a good relationship with my parents, they're both pretty laid-back folk, but I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping this part of myself secret. It's not like I expect them to fill me in on their weird kinks (ugh *shudder*).

[Firefly]

You know, even if parents think the whole thing is a bit odd, there are worse things you could be looking at than this site or Bondi's wav page. I hope that any parents who do find out feel able perhaps to come and check us out. We take a lot of time and care to try to ensure this site is suitable for use by members of all different ages from teenage upwards. Personally I think it is good to be able to explore your sexuality, and I hope that other parents are open-minded enough to feel the same way if they do stumble across it by accident.

I was hoping she wouldn't be too upset, but she told me point-blank that I was disgusting, and should never, EVER come here (or anywhere else sneeze-fetish related) again. This resulted in being grounded for three weeks. I can't help having this fetish, why can't she just accept that...?

[Vetinari]

I was hoping she wouldn't be too upset, but she told me point-blank that I was disgusting, and should never, EVER come here (or anywhere else sneeze-fetish related) again. This resulted in being grounded for three weeks. I can't help having this fetish, why can't she just accept that...?

I'm really sorry to hear that. Maybe as you get a bit older, she will learn to be a bit more accepting. I guess the generation who are growing up now might learn, via the internet to be a bit less prudish about the many forms of sexuality there are. Lets hope so.

[count tiszula]

Sad to say, I think the myth of the reasonable parent is just that; an insubstantial chimaera. From my experience parents are very like children; they start out completely wild, and take years of training to be even vaguely socialised. And just when you think you've succeeded they reach the next stage and revert to unreason, after which they descend into second childhood.

I know things ought to be better nowadays, but everything suggests they are not; parents don't understand even simple facts of modern life; they are shocked when teenage boys watch internet porn of the softest variety, or watch forbidden tv programmes online; well, what do they THINK their children are doing?

[murphy dee]

I was hoping she wouldn't be too upset, but she told me point-blank that I was disgusting, and should never, EVER come here (or anywhere else sneeze-fetish related) again. This resulted in being grounded for three weeks. I can't help having this fetish, why can't she just accept that...?

Parents are not reasonable people, it's just that simple. If it were possible to sit down and have rational, level-headed talks with them when we get in trouble, that would be one thing. But it's never like that.

Story time: When I was in middle school, I had a crush on a boy in my theatre class because he was super hot. So I wrote a little page-long story on my computer about us that was definitely X-rated. I made the mistake of printing off a copy and keeping it in my bedroom so I could read it whenever I wanted and blush and giggle and swoon over this boy. Then, of course, my mom found it when she was cleaning my room. Instead of realizing that perhaps this was her 12-year-old daughter's way of dealing with her budding sexuality and using it as a stepping stone to have a frank and open discussion about love and sex, my mom made me delete the story from the computer, threw away my copy, and told me I shouldn't be writing such inappropriate stuff. My mom has always been a very sweet woman...just, maybe too sweet, y'know?

I can understand your mom's point of view, though. She's just not informed. She hears the word "fetish" and she probably starts thinking about all sorts of sick, depraved stuff. She probably doesn't realize just how tame this fetish is compared to a lot of others. And she also probably doesn't understand that, being 13, you're not allowed to view adult material here. Most likely, she thinks you've got access to some kind of weird pornography. When her head is filled with all those kinds of thoughts and worries, it's no wonder she had such a knee-jerk reaction and grounded you. She shouldn't have called you disgusting, though...that was really out of line, and I have to imagine that was hurtful to you. I hope that your mom is able to cool down and come to you with a calmer demeanor and actually speak with you about this.

[Vetinari]

Sad to say, I think the myth of the reasonable parent is just that; an insubstantial chimaera. From my experience parents are very like children; they start out completely wild, and take years of training to be even vaguely socialised. And just when you think you've succeeded they reach the next stage and revert to unreason, after which they descend into second childhood.

I know things ought to be better nowadays, but everything suggests they are not; parents don't understand even simple facts of modern life; they are shocked when teenage boys watch internet porn of the softest variety, or watch forbidden tv programmes online; well, what do they THINK their children are doing?

You know, I'm a parent. I don't think my 13 year old is doing all that stuff, well I'm sure he isn't at home (because the computer is set up so he can't) what he does at school and at his friends' houses is another matter but I assume he will come to all of that in time, even if he isn't now. I really don't have a problem with it and I am definitely not a myth.

Parents are not reasonable people, it's just that simple. If it were possible to sit down and have rational, level-headed talks with them when we get in trouble, that would be one thing. But it's never like that.

Can we use the word SOME in that first sentence please? There are some perfectly reasonable parents, even on this forum.

I can understand your mom's point of view, though. She's just not informed. She hears the word "fetish" and she probably starts thinking about all sorts of sick, depraved stuff. She probably doesn't realize just how tame this fetish is compared to a lot of others. And she also probably doesn't understand that, being 13, you're not allowed to view adult material here. Most likely, she thinks you've got access to some kind of weird pornography. When her head is filled with all those kinds of thoughts and worries, it's no wonder she had such a knee-jerk reaction and grounded you. She shouldn't have called you disgusting, though...that was really out of line, and I have to imagine that was hurtful to you. I hope that your mom is able to cool down and come to you with a calmer demeanor and actually speak with you about this.

I agree with this. People are frightened of that word and don't associate it with anything they may feel. For years I thought anyone who had a fetish must be very odd, I associated it with SM and so on and found that stuff bizarre and scary. Hence what I said before. I hope that if parents do see anything, that they will come and check us out. I hope as well that your mum will calm down and will become a little more rational in time.

[murphy dee]

Can we use the word SOME in that first sentence please? There are some perfectly reasonable parents, even on this forum.

Oops, you're right Vetinari, sorry about that.

[Vetinari]

Can we use the word SOME in that first sentence please? There are some perfectly reasonable parents, even on this forum.

Oops, you're right Vetinari, sorry about that.

It could be worse. The Count thinks I'm a a monstrous fire-breathing female creature with the the body of a lioness, a tail that ends in a snake's head, with the head of a goat rising from my back. Well either that or he thinks I'm a not a reasonable parent and even he'd better draw the line at implying that if he knows what's good for him!

With apologies to Kilala for the slight threadjack. I'm glad your mother hasn't made a big fuss about it. Maybe she's a reasonable parent too.

Edited March 31, 2011 by Vetinari

[count tiszula]

Oh dear, I am tempted to make the old joke about women always taking general remarks personally, but I will quickly add that my remarks were utterly general, I am sure that the exception proves the rule and there must be a few reasonable parents somewhere in the world, even, possibly, on this forum.

I meant chimaera in its more figurative sense. Oh, I don't know, a fire-breathing tripartite monster sounds like fun; I am reminded of whatever Wilde wrote about Gwendolen's mama, Lady Bracknell; something like "a monster, without being a myth" [subs please check quote].

My problem is that I'm like just so down with the kids, with my notoriously liberal views and close knowledge of modern technology....