Female sneezes/sexuality

[Shelle]

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and then I decided that maybe it would be appropriate to write here. If it's not I appologise.

For some reason male sneezes turn me off, it's not that they gross me out I just would rather not hear/see them and often feel awkward. The weird part is I do like my boyfriend's sneezes a lot but only his. On the other hand I love female sneezes, pretty much all of them. Obviously I have preferences but if talking in a general sense I like female sneezes and not males. The reason I was hesitant about mentioning it here is because I also wanted to comment on the fact that I can't stand to watch male and female porn (It's not a regular thing but sometimes I watch it on my own or the odd time with my boyfriend) however girl on girl porn I really enjoy (I truly apologize if this is not appropriate to mention I wasn't sure). I guess lately (ok for a while) I've been thinking more and more about women in a sexual way compared to men. However I love my boyfriend and want to be with him. I guess I'm a bit confused, I can't help but think I'm slightly into women. I've kissed females before or friends out at the bar playfully but I keep wanting to do it again. If anyone has anything to comment on/suggest I'd love to hear it. Thanks

[Mountain Sneezer]

Just a thought and I could be wrong but it sounds like you have an appeal to something that is generally more discrete. I think it is also because you relate to it. Like can you relate to a big man sneeze or a girl sneeze? As for yiur bf that is probably because your in general attracted to him. I hope this makes sense and I don't offend you or anyone else.

[Vetinari]

I don't have any wonderful insight into why you are like that, but what I will say is that my own experiences mirror yours very closely. I tend to be much more attracted to female sneezing in general. Mostly the only men I really want to hear sneeze are men to whom I am attracted/in a relationship with. I dislike porn which involves men, preferring f/f. I wondered for a long time whether I was a repressed lesbian, however I am now at home with the fact that, relationship-wise, I am wholly straight, even if the things I find stimulating would suggest otherwise.

Possible thoughts I have had regarding this pattern are that enjoying women in a sexual way means that I can enjoy that side of things in a way that is very nonthreatening to my relationships.I can find stimulation in the full knowledge that I don't want to have a relationship with the other parties involved. I'm not convinced about that but it is an explanation which has crossed my mind. Maybe you are attracted to women and of course there is no shame in that either. There is no right or wrong way to be and you don't need to understand everything. I think the key thing is to relax and just enjoy what you enjoy without shame.

[Kiwifruit]

I used to wonder sometimes if I was bisexual, because I find the female body a beautiful and fascinating thing I love drawing curvy women and enjoy reading comics that I won't list here for 18+ness that have a lot of f/f in them or just female characters who are drawn in that "let's appeal to all our male readers!" way, if you know what I mean...xD However, I can't see myself kissing a girl, or doing anything romantically with a girl, or ever being in a relationship with another female. Females attract and fascinate me...but not in a sexual way, and I don't get turned on by them. At all (sneezing excluded). The thought of having any sort of intimate relationship with a girl squicks me out horribly xD I dunno, I'm bizarre So...I guess I could say I think about women in a sexual way...but it doesn't turn me on and I have no interest in pursuing it. Does that...sort of make sense? xD But anyway, I've concluded I'm definitely straight, I'm only interested in a relationship with a male and in doing anything sexual with a male. I've never watched porn (except for a short bit of one clip when I accidentally clicked on an ad, and that horrified me xD) so I can't comment on my likes and dislikes there, though I fantasise exclusively about m/f.

I do get turned on by female sneezing though, and I'm much less picky about female sneezing than male. I get turned on by the right male sneezing more, but I get turned on by a broader range of female sneezing.

Just thought I'd share my thoughts. Sexuality is a complicated thing...

[Skiffy]

Maybe you're bisexual? That doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less. Loads of people aren't 100% straight. If you talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling, he might be open to helping you explore this side of yourself. A loving, lasting relationship doesn't necessarily have to be monogamous (I have very little relationship experience of any kind, but I do have some happily polyamorous friends).

Before I discovered (understood, I guess) that I had his fetish, I was only slightly attracted to guys but also girls. I assumed I was straight and confused and thought of myself as not very sexual. I had had a relationship with a boy, done some sexual things but was never particularly turned on at all. My attraction to girls, I assumed, was just some admiration and low self-esteem thing. I thought I was only confusing platonic love and the desire to be more like these girls with sexual attraction. I occasionally had sexual dreams about girls and participated in a few girl-snogging antics, just for "fun". Then it dawned on me that sneezing is fricking hot, I am, in-fact, a sexual being and while I have still not done anything more than kiss girls, they are who I usually think about while I...em...you know. So I feel a lot more comfortable now thinking of myself as bi, although mostly gay. But hey, that's just a label. Just do what feel rights, regardless of what category those actions fall under.

[Shelle]

I really appreciate all the comments, thanks!

[Heathcliff]

I mainly like female sneezes, but I do enjoy some male sneezes too.

I would class myself as a straight guy; I have a similar view to Kiwifruit towards same-sex attraction: I might appreciate a man is good-looking, but I have no desire for a relationship with a man. Even so, there have been some male sneezes which I found sexually exciting (though I find I'm far more picky about male sneezes.)

Occasionally, I have even been turned on by the thought of men's bodies, or men doing sexual things; but I have always known for sure that I did not want to have sex with another guy, so I have never felt confused.

Nowadays I'm quite comfortable with these thoughts, and just enjoy them when they come along!

It sounds like you are genuinely bi-curious; I don't have any experience with that really, but I don't think it's at all unusual. Certainly there seem to be many women on the forum who are attracted to men, but really enjoy female sneezes. Even if you are attracted to both men and women, it doesn't lessen your relationship with your boyfriend in any way.

Edited April 13, 2011 by Heathcliff

[ID2006]

My preferences have changed a lot since discovering the fetish. When I first identified what it was I was only into men sneezing. Then for a while (almost two years I think) I only liked women sneezing. Then I was only into m/m sneezing and although I do not watch porn I definitely have a tendency to like the concept of m/m the best. Currently my fave is m/m sneezing when it's in stories, next would be f sneezing when it comes to pics and videos, then m/f with the male sneezing, and then f/m with the female sneezing. I also tend to switch a lot with whether I like cold or allergy sneezes better, although most of the time it's cold sneezes (I love the caretaking, and coughing, ect. that comes with a cold).

[Hayley]

I'm pretty much exactly the same way you are, Shelle. I prefer female sneezes almost exclusively and I don't like male sneezes at all, except for from men I'm in a relationship with. I also prefer porn that has only females in it, on the rare occasion I watch that type of thing. I don't think that it's something you need to worry about. I think that a lot of women prefer to fantasize about females because it's easier for us to relate to that and get turned on by it. I also think that sexuality is a continuum - you don't have to be 100% straight or 100% gay. If you are happy in your relationship with your boyfriend, and your enjoyment of female sneezes/porn doesn't get in the way of that, then just keep enjoying both

[Nicole]

Funny that this topic came up at this point in my life. There are very few male sneezes that "do it" for me - I have always been more attracted to female sneezes, despite the fact that, for most of my life, I've identified as straight. A few years ago I became bi-curious...then I pretty much decided that I was definitely interested in women...and then, most recently, I found myself in a threesome, all with women. And it was fabulous, and we can't wait to do it again, and I generally think about it every day.

But I'm happily married to a wonderful man. (Who fully supports our girl-on-girl action and would like to join in. ) So what gives? Meh...who cares. Perhaps you're just sexually open? There's nothing wrong with knowing that you love women and think they're sexy, and maybe you want to experiment with them, but also knowing full well that you will probably always need a man to satisfy you. This ability to be open is one of the beautiful things about sexuality. Embrace it! And good luck. :hug

[Marceline]

I'm the EXACT same way. I classify myself as bi. I don't watch porn but I know if I did (which I wouldn't) I would find straight sex disgusting. I like girl-on-girl couples the best. If you love your boyfriend, you don't have to break up with him with any means because you think you like girls too. (Actually, 90% of guys think bi girls are hot.)

[wannablessedbe]

it's an interesting question you raise, but before I get into anything about sneezing specifically, I just want to say that it's 100% normal for your feelings towards girls and guys as broad categories to fluctuate; it doesn't mean that your attraction to your boyfriend as an individual is changed, just that your overall tendencies are not set in stone. I listen to dan savage's podcast (y'all know savage love, right?) all the time, and he's constantly citing scientific studies in the last decade that all point toward female sexuality being profoundly fluid; most women aren't 100% gay or straight. in fact, most of my friends who are bi aren't even comfortable with the term "bisexual," because it implies this strict polarity that's exactly 50-50, and almost no one really feels that way.

that said, I'm pretty sure I'm one of those few who really is 100% gay. but for what it's worth, I've always liked both male and female sneezing-- it never really mattered who it was (as long as it wasn't someone in my family), a good sneeze is a good sneeze. I don't think you need to torture yourself over it! hope that helps