Galaxy Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 I am indeed very happy, because today---after about a year and a half---I finally told my therapist about the fetish! It was SO weird to start, though. I couldn't even say the word 'sneeze'. It took about five minutes of squirming before I could finally get the word out. But after I did, things were still REALLY weird, because I kept feeling like she was judging me (which I'm sure we all feel when we tell people...). She was asking some reeeeally uncomfortable questions, like "So, can you not get aroused unless someone sneezes on you or something?" and stuff. I don't think she was being judgmental, though, just trying to understand it better. And I let her read some drabbles, which was suuuuuuuuuper embarrassing, especially since they used terms like "hitching" and "build-up" and stuff that I had to explain to her. >< But oh well. Anything for the sake of progress! She also told me that I should confront my mom about it. (Long story short, she found out about my fetish a few years ago, called it disgusting, and we haven't mentioned it since...). I am SO not ready to talk to my mom about it, but it's a work in progress, I suppose.But yes, I just wanted to share my little self-victory. Link to comment
smiles15 Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 That's greattt! Congratulations! Link to comment
Blessing Queen Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Congratulations!Wish I have the courage to tell my therapist too...But I maybe tell her soon... Link to comment
Giant Steps Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Well, first of all, congratulations! Must be quite cathartic to get that stuff off your chest. But, if you'll pardon my intrusion...She also told me that I should confront my mom about it. (Long story short, she found out about my fetish a few years ago, called it disgusting, and we haven't mentioned it since...). I am SO not ready to talk to my mom about it, but it's a work in progress, I suppose.I think this is really bad advice. There's no need to tell her - or the therapist, really - especially if you've already told her and she didn't take to it at all. If you're not ready then please don't feel forced and don't tell her unless you want to! Link to comment
elements Posted June 22, 2011 Share Posted June 22, 2011 Glad you feel good! I agree, I've always felt it is not really a parent's business, and making it so still seems like admitting our fetish makes us strange...while it is unusual....But, would a heterosexual male tell his mother "I'm so aroused by breasts, they really turn me on, I read stories about hott girl's naked breasts". Now, this is just my opinion. Do whatever will make you feel happy and fulfilled in your life.Well, first of all, congratulations! Must be quite cathartic to get that stuff off your chest. But, if you'll pardon my intrusion...She also told me that I should confront my mom about it. (Long story short, she found out about my fetish a few years ago, called it disgusting, and we haven't mentioned it since...). I am SO not ready to talk to my mom about it, but it's a work in progress, I suppose.I think this is really bad advice. There's no need to tell her - or the therapist, really - especially if you've already told her and she didn't take to it at all. If you're not ready then please don't feel forced and don't tell her unless you want to! Link to comment
caligulasArmageddons Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Parents are so accepting, aren't they? /sarcasmCongratulations!! I only tell the people that won't probe me about it. I mean, honestly? Do I LOOK like I only get aroused if a boy sneezes on my breasts?! No. Leave me alone. Oh! Topic. Right. Sorry. About telling your mom, walk up to her and say, "I get aroused by sneezing, deal with it." I mean, only if you want to. And you don't have to say 'aroused'. My mom accepts me, and we're slowly sliding into Jokingland. The other day, she asked me how to spell 'sneeze' for the crossword. I had to fight to keep from ripping the paper out of her hands and reading the clue, though. Heh heh…Do whatever you're comfortable with. -hums 'Born This Way' for no particular reason- Link to comment
MyOwnPrivateSFC Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Glad you feel good! I agree, I've always felt it is not really a parent's business, and making it so still seems like admitting our fetish makes us strange...while it is unusual....But, would a heterosexual male tell his mother "I'm so aroused by breasts, they really turn me on, I read stories about hott girl's naked breasts". Now, this is just my opinion. Do whatever will make you feel happy and fulfilled in your life.I'm not totally sure what your point is here. Maybe you could clarify? I'm not trying to be a bitch; I'm just confused. Because, no, if I were a heterosexual male, I wouldn't tell my mother what turned me on at all, even if it was the definition of the norm. As it is, I'm a bi female, and I don't tell my mother the things that turn me on even heterosexually. Maybe some people have a relationship with their parents where they talk about what arouses them (though I don't know that many guys have it with their mothers), but plenty of people don't. Yes, my mother doesn't know about my sneezing fetish, or my other fetishes, or the fact that I'm bisexual, but she also doesn't know that a guy wearing glasses instantly becomes more attractive to me, or that reading about men's chests can get me horny. We just don't discuss it. Yet, your post seems to imply that you thinks most guys would tell their mothers what turned them on, as long as it was "normal"....or maybe I'm just reading it wrong.... Link to comment
sneeeze3 Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 I told my therapist too. I needed to tell her because my boyfriend and I have been struggling because of my fetish. He rarely sneezes and now he has a mental block and can't sneeze naturally in front of me. It really sucks because then I have trouble getting turned on. We both don't know what to do and talking to the therapist seemed like the only solution. Link to comment
chalkdust Posted June 23, 2011 Share Posted June 23, 2011 Thats very impressive, good for you! I am generally pretty open about most of my life but my sneezing fetish is the one thing I haven't told ANYONE in my life about, not even GFs. It is kind of weird to me too because I am pretty open about my interets in BDSM yet I am not that way about sneezing.Good luck in working up to talk with your mom. Link to comment
Galaxy Posted June 24, 2011 Author Share Posted June 24, 2011 Well, I've never intended to come out about the fetish to my mom. She just searched my computer and found I had been looking up everything and all things sneezy, and she just knew. << It's not that I WANT to talk about it with her---because I wish I would never have to bring it up---but it's just an issue I have to confront, because she acted like I was a freak for it. I just want her to know that this is who I am, and who I'm always gonna be, and tough titties if she doesn't like it. Because either way, she's GOING to find out. Like when I finally publish a book, and she finds all this sneeze fetishy stuff in it...Buuuut I'm gonna hold off on talking about it for a while... It's just not time yet.Thanks for the kind words, everyone! Link to comment
Pilgrim Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Woooooooooow. I never could've done that. I was just thinking about whether I ever would the other night, coincidentally, and I decided it would just be too embarassing. Good job, I guess? I hope that telling her ends up being helpful with future therapy in some sense. Link to comment
March Hare Posted June 24, 2011 Share Posted June 24, 2011 Awesome Galaxy, I take my hat off to you! That was a VERY brave thing to do. I hope it has all the possible positive effects! P.S.Glad you feel good! I agree, I've always felt it is not really a parent's business, and making it so still seems like admitting our fetish makes us strange...while it is unusual....But, would a heterosexual male tell his mother "I'm so aroused by breasts, they really turn me on, I read stories about hott girl's naked breasts". Now, this is just my opinion. Do whatever will make you feel happy and fulfilled in your life.your post seems to imply that you thinks most guys would tell their mothers what turned them on, as long as it was "normal"....or maybe I'm just reading it wrong.... Pretty sure that what elements meant is that VERY few teenagers m/f, whatever their preferences, would be very open about them towards their mothers. So yeah, you do seem to have read it wrong. Link to comment
streetclub54 Posted June 26, 2011 Share Posted June 26, 2011 That's great news for you, I don't think that is something That could do myself though, Maybe one day. Link to comment
Galaxy Posted June 27, 2011 Author Share Posted June 27, 2011 Haha, thanks, everyone, I'm really happy that I can come to this place and talk about simple accomplishments that I SO couldn't discuss with my non-fetishy friends. Link to comment
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