How many people know about your fetish?

[sexyhankysneeze]

and who are they in relation to you?

also, when and why did you tell them?/they find out?

[JenJen]

I told an ex-boyfriend of mine, pretty much point blank on one of our first dates. I wanted to see how it would go down. Turned out, he was interested in doing fetish stuff and liked indulging me, but I actually got tired of him knowing. I enjoy having my secret, it makes me feel like I'm being sneaky and bad, heh heh. What can I say? I'm a Scorpio - being secretive and naughty is kind of my bag.

Other than him and you guys, no, no one else knows. And trust me, I intend to keep it that way.

[smooshi]

At one point in my class, I felt like only me and one other girl weren't brainwashed with teen stars, trends and the idea of all the girls looking like Hannah Montana. That other girl is now someone I call my best friend. She is actually the only person of my or near my age who I am close with.

I've told her at the beginning of this year, after I discovered this forum and I was sure what my fondness of sneezing means.

Her reaction was.... almost unbelievible! We sometimes discuss it (because she wants to) and she even wanted to read my stories and see my drawings, but I am still not ready for someone to look at my... mmm... nope, can't find the right word.

In a nutshell, she's just awesome!

[alias]

Zero. I have never told anyone. I've discussed with some friends about my kinks for the injured/vulnerable kind of thing (because some of them share that pseudo-sadism too), but I've never mentioned sneezing. I've come close though, but always decided against it. I really want to tell somebody, but at the same time, I like having a secret. And if I tell someone, it's not such a secret anymore. Plus, if I pick someone to tell, I want them to be interested in it and ask me questions. If they don't care, I'd be kinda disappointed.

[retrofan191]

my ex girlfriend found out. she was kinda over dramatic over it. my sister was with her when she discovered it and actually, she took it alot better. apparently she said "maybe he was just afraid to tell you" and " i mean.. he probably cant help that he likes it"

[TheCakeIsAlive]

I've told two people. One of them helped me make the decision whether or not to join the forum. They've both taken it quite well and it's nice to be able to talk about the forum with people not involved in it sometimes.

[Ali Marie]

My parents know, they caught me on here & I flipped out. They're Doctors, they understood everything & were like, "So, you have a Sneezing Fetish. No big deal, alot of people have Fetishes. Talking about it is healthy, but you don't have to, if you don't want to." (I talk to them about it every chance I get!)

My sisters know, I told them. My twin thought it was weird & didn't really get it at first. So, she asked all these really awkward questions! I think she's used to it now. I had another sister, she was adopted. I think my twin told & it was never brought up my her, unless I mentioned it. The adopted sister lives elsewhere now & I don't even thinks she remembers.

I have one friend who knows. A former Co-Star that I roomed with during a show. I was watching the movie "Head Above Water" & I wasn't aware that there was sneezing in it. So, during what I refer to as the Climax of that aforemention movie...I resorted to my habit of biting. My friend made a joke about that fact that I was biting the corner of a pillow & said "What? Did that make you orgasm?"

BUSTED!!! She thought it was a little funny at first, but then she understood. I don't think she remembers, either!

[HankieDr]

My particular fetish are girls handkerchiefs rather than sneezing I have to say.

Did let a prevous g/f (a nurse) in on that I love to see her with one and use it, she never mentioned that I was weird or anything, just kinda cute and a feminine thing to use.

She did eventualy start to use them in a way during 'play' and knew what kinda reaction she would get lol.

When we where out togethor and seen other girls with hankies, she just gave me a knowing look!!

[Skiffy]

I've told a few people. I'm open with my close friends about sex and sexuality, so a few times I've been in a conversation where it just makes it easier to tell them about the fetish too so they understand what I'm on about. I've told some not-so-close people as well (usually while kinda drunk) in similar situations where it just happened to come up and would be more awkward to avoid than to say. No one's ever reacted badly, but there is now a growing list of people I'm embarrassed to be around if anyone sneezes, and I can't quite remember who is who isn't on that list.

ETA: In "close friends" I include my recent ex and some other people I've slept with who are also friends.

Edited July 24, 2012 by Skiffy

[EmeraldThread]

Three. Maybe four, but I think the fourth was just someone who asked me what my weirdest fetish was and I refused to answer at the time. Can't remember if she asked me again and got an answer. All of them are (or were at one point) close friends and/or people who I'm certain wouldn't care what kind of fetishes I have. Most of them, I've only had kind of one time conversations with about it, and only discussed it repeatedly with one person.

Hmm...I can't remember the exact contexts of each or precisely how we came to be on the subject, but the first was when I was playing questions with someone. I don't know if it's weird, but I actually really wanted to tell at least one person about the fetish, so I guided them to that kind of question. I answered, and she was just really interested in knowing about it. The second...I think were just on the subject of things like fetishes and stuff, and it ended up being a mutual sharing. Same with the third. As a result, I'm less self conscious about it. Knowing how people - specifically my friends, I can't speak for the general population - react to it makes me feel a lot more at ease. What made me a little more comfortable about sharing it is just the sheer number of conversations I've had about other people's fetishes and really personal stuff as a whole. I don't mind a few people knowing if I figure they're not going to talk about it to everyone they know (then again, why would they?).

[Bluebird]

I used to be a LOT more open about it, but now I'm more reserved.

First and foremost both my sisters know about it. Both think it's a bit strange but they're also tight-lipped and accepting of it at the same time. My twin sister is the best about it though. Where I wouldn't be able to sit in a room and go on here or look up clips in front of my younger sister, I CAN do all that (albeit awkwardly but still) in front of my twin sis and not get a comment. They do like to poke fun at me about it sometimes though, have made their fair share of jokes, and I think my twin sis got annoyed by it when we were younger, but they're still good.

I honestly have no clue if my parents have found me out yet. I doubt it, considering I'm very protective of my media-searching devices and won't let them use it without clearing out my history first, but maybe they caught on? Maybe when I tried to make sneezing powder a few years ago? I...really don't know. XP

My cousins know, I think. They really used to like to tease me about it, but they've probably forgotten about it. My oldest cousin I think still knows though, from the occasional sneeze-related stuff I post on Tumblr.

If my other family members know, hell if I'm aware.

Most recently I came out about it on my DevaintART and FurAffinity accounts, and three of my real life friends know and are accepting about it. I love them to bits and pieces for it.

My best friend I remember telling back a few years ago, but I don't know if she remembers. A couple of ex-friends know, but that just kind of landed me in a little trouble that I was able to deny. I think I mentioned it in another thread, but I'll give the shortened version here: in gym class almost two years ago, I was waiting for the class to start when this annoying kid came up to me and asked me if I liked sneezing. I was able to deny it but BOY did I panic.

Other coming-outs I remember was at two sleepover parties to two groups of different friends (one now a group of mostly ex-friends).

And...I've been meaning to come out to a few of my other best friends, but the opportunity has just NOT come up. At all. I was considering going out to Tumblr but I'm having major second thoughts about it, but it keeps gnawing at me so who knows. *shrugs*

[Sniffle Lover]

Zero. I haven't told a soul and I don't have any plans to. I just want to keep it to myself like maybe with a significant other someday I'll say something, but it would probably be in the I'm engaged or married to him stage of our relationship. I'm not even sure if I would say something very direct. It would probably be more along the lines of relating it to a specific experience with the person. I would probably say something like "I don't know why but your allergies are really adorable to me."

[nolongeractive]

Outside of people on the forum, it's only my boyfriend and two other close online friends. We're all a group and I knew they would be accepting, so they all found out at different times and none of them seem to care. I told my boyfriend within the first week we started dating because I knew I can trust him (and I was right). I doubt I would feel comfortable telling anyone else. When I was pretty young I told my friend "I like sneezing", but she was just kind of like "Oh yeah, it's so weird!" and brushed it off. So she doesn't actually "know". xD;

Edited July 24, 2012 by The Cracked Egg

[Lalena]

Just 2 ex-boyfriends and I don't regret telling either of them. I dated both of them for more than a year before I told them, so I completely trusted them when I let them know.

The fetish is not something I am open about. Thank goodness for my forum friends that can listen when I need to talk about it!

[R.L]

Sitrus is the only person who knows about all the stuff I'm into.

My youngest brother knows that I have a sneezing fetish, I told him a few years ago.. But I was drunk as fuck. I never mentioned it again, so I can just hope that he's forgotten about it. xD

A friend I no longer talk to knows that I like "Tough people showing weakness and getting sick and that kind of stuff". So I guess it kinda counts.

[NoV]

Apart from you guys on here, I have not told anyone in 'real life' about my fetish. That's not to say that someone close to me has not found out somehow (eg. seeing files on my computer) and has just decided that it is easier to not confront me about it or respect my privacy.

[flower]

I told a guy I was dating because he told me he had a foot fetish. He didn't think it was a big deal at all and was very intrigued by the whole thing, though he never really seemed to understand it.

The man I'm currently dating knows I have a fetish but not specifically what it is. We were discussing it recently and I was trying to explain that it is kind of like any "normal" sexual attraction. I always notice it but it doesn't always turn me on. I'm trying to get him to understand it better before I actually tell him. So anyway, he was throwing out guesses of what it could possibly be and wanted me to tell him if he had named it in the list. His list included things like coughing, yawning, burping, sneezing. I said, "yup, it was in that list". I got kind of quiet and felt very awkward. He squeezed my hand and said, "Hey, I'm still here. I'm not going anywhere. If it was one of those things, it's no big deal." Since then he hasn't brought it up at all, and I'm not planning to say anything about it again unless he brings it up.

[Sneesee]

I used to be a lot more open, and told a lot of people, starting with my husband. Then I told a couple of close male friends. Some of my co-workers know. I tend to be more tight-lipped about it these days, and only tell people I really feel comfortable with. I've never had a negative reaction to it, ever. It's just that, well, I feel like it has to be the right time to tell someone. I tend to tell guys, because I think they understand sexual quirks better. But a few of the women I've told are pretty good with it. I also tend to tell women who are a lot like me, and only if they are curious about it. People have to be interested if I'm going to have to explain it. LOL

But really, it has made for lots of wonderful experiences, text messages, and gifts I've received, so I can't bitch about who I've told!!

[Ciel]

As far as I am aware, no one knows about my fetish... yet. I don't plan to, in fact. I feel a bit insecure about telling because I mean, you never know if other people are willing to accept it. They might just freak out and think I am a weirdo or something. However, if my significant other in the future proves to be trusting enough, I MAY consider it.

[Zebra]

Well my 4 best friends know after we talked about fetishes. They begged me to tell them so finally one day I caved and made them all swear not to tell anyone. I haven't actually told them about the forum though and I don't particularly think they understand it. I feel sometimes I make it awkward because now I'm really open with them about it and I'll be like "ugh he's hot, I wish he had a cold" and things like that. In fact I bring it up quite often with them but their "fetishes" are sort of not fetishes? I don't think they understand what it means to have a real one to be honest. When I told them, I was embarrassed even though I love them all to pieces. I was just like "yeah .....ummm......it's .....ugh omg I can't........ok it's sneezing" so I didn't fully explain that it has different aspects like allergies/colds etc. They pretty much get it from the way I react but I'm not sure they know how my fetishy mind works exactly. Then there was this boy that I felt really close to so I sort of said he was hot when he was ill and stuff and I kept asking him how his cold was and things. I covered it with the fact I'm a germaphob and just concerned but maybe he has a sneaky feeling? Aahh well, I can lie my way out of that Then there's someone I talk to online who has a fetish and we tease eachother. That's about it except I think maybe one of my friends has spilled a little or let someone see her phone. Either way 5 people know for definite. I'm a lot more open these days which I should stop. Oh and I don't think my parents know unless they've worked it out

[Lalena]

His list included things like coughing, yawning, burping, sneezing. I said, "yup, it was in that list". I got kind of quiet and felt very awkward. He squeezed my hand and said, "Hey, I'm still here. I'm not going anywhere. If it was one of those things, it's no big deal."

Awe! So cute!! Sounds like a really nice guy

[Chanel_no5]

I told a bunch of friends when we were drunk together. They... well, I suppose they took it rather well. Nobody mentioned it ever again, though. I told another friend once, and at first it seemed she took it well but then she just turned on me and pretty much broke contact with me. So, no, I'm not telling anyone else.

I also suspect that my sister knows, I believe she was cyber-stalking me back when she was a teen... but I have no proof and I've made it clear to her that we do not speak of such things.

[ScorpionPrincess]

One, my current boyfriend. It felt like I was hiding something, and we have been together over two years, so it seemed safe to tell him. I made himg uess what it was...he never guessed right so I eventually told him. He said he had never heard of that before, and said that it was pretty tame compared to a lot of the things he had been guessing, lol. He didn't react weirdly, and he doesn't mind. We actually don't talk about it much. His sneezes are big, loud, sudden, and kind of scare me. :/ I feel bad about that. Maybe I just like female sneezes better. I don't know. Honestly I don't think he would ever tell anyone. Also, I told him a few months ago.

[Tangerine]

I've told 3 boyfriends in the past but not until after I'd been dating them awhile and worked up the courage. Also 1 friend knows because she decided to go through my computers's history.

[Copper]

Aside from my ex and you guys, only two people know about it.

Both those people are internet aquaintances who live on another continent and whom I'll never actually meet.

I had no qualms about telling them because they are simply so far removed from my life that there's nothing they could do or say that about it that'd end up hurting me. They both took it really well and thought it was weird, but kind of cute.