Confessions you regretted

[Coffee Mug]

Have you ever told someone about your fetish and then heavily regretted about it? I did! And it was just awful! I told my mother when I was like 11 years old. I was in panic. Didn't know why I was so interested in sneezing, thought I was crazy, weird, an outsider.. so I just HAD to tell someone and my mother was the one who I trusted the most at that time. Oh the mistake. It took me so much effort and courage. I was feeling nauseous. I told her mom sit down there's something really personal I have to tell you. And then I told her. She started to laugh at me and didn't believe me, started to call me names and wanted to call me brother and sister I said no please. Then it happened. She let out a big loud sneeze and said now what? Are you going to jump on me like an arroused lunatic? Oh please please why did she say it? I wish I could delete my memory. I never ever talked to her about the subject. That was just wrong.

[PuddinPop]

ohh no that's awful, and so mean!! u poor thing

i must say, i have never told anyone in my life about my fetish, i'm far too scared. but i also don't think i've ever actually trusted anyone enough to tell them, i'm always scared i'll get judged as being some freak and i've never felt its quite normal.

[Coffee Mug]

I think that maybe ... MAYBE if you could find someone that you trust with all your heart and with every inch of your self and that you know that is open minded and that will not freak out to know about such a fetish maybe you could try. Even if I've had such a bad experience with my mother (but then, she ruined me in such many ways that the fetish confession was just the top of the iceberg) i've managed to tell a couple of boyfriends about the fetish and they were really cool about it. So don't be too afraid of it. Just find the right person. If you feel the need to confess

[Leas]

There's a few people I've told and regretted telling. One guy in particular I told him and he told his girlfriend and used to rip the shit out of me, well they both did. It was mortifying, I haven't told my parents and I don't know weather to tell them or not, i'm in two minds. I know how you feel, I felt like my life was over, like it was gonna be spread to the world. That was eighteen months ago, I don't talk to either of them anymore and I do sometimes wonder if they've told other people.

[PuddinPop]

aww thank you

i don't know if i'll find that person, or even if i do i'm not sure i would ever tell anyone.

but at least i have the guys on here so i'm not completely alone

[•.*°•☆. Q .☆•°*.•]

When my parents found out, well, I didn't exactly tell them.They sort of found out on their own, and then we had a conversation about it, and it was kind of traumatizing. They then sent me to a councilor and the councilor so that I would not go on youtube and look up sneezing any more, and pretty much kink shamed me about it until they forgot. It wasn't a terrific experience.

No one I've told since then has actually shamed me for it, though. I told my best friend, she thinks it's adorable. I told another really close friend of mine, and she said she can understand it because she thinks sneezing is really cute, not sexy but really cute, and that her boyfriend has the fetish. (I was really surprised! Also sort of pleased.) I told this guy I was crushing on once and he said "well I guess next time I see you maybe I should bring a feather with me ". and that was amazing. I told this guy I was going out with (we're still really close) about it and he was so accepting of it that he barely noticed! He said, "Oh. Okay. Cool. Hey, what do you think we should do for lunch?" All in all, I think it usually goes really well, except when you get someone really closed-minded.

[Tangerine]

I never had a terrible reaction from the guys I told. Most were eager to induce for me actually. I used to think I'd never tell a soul, but the older and I got and the more comfortable I became with the fetish, the more I wanted to share it with the people I trusted most. Of course it's taking a risk but if you find the right one, sharing your fetish can be really special.

Though the one bf I decided to tell when we got a hotel one weekend. After making him guess for ages he got it, and couldn't stop laughing and wouldn't believe me. In a wave of embarrassment I tried to run away but the room was so tiny that there was no where to go. Admittedly it was more humorous than traumatizing. Sorry guess I can't relate on this one.

I cannot even IMAGINE telling a parent. I think I would have to move out then and there. Amy, I'm so sorry that your family tried to make you feel ashamed of the fetish. That's really, really awful and they had NO right.

[Snowydays]

Aww,i told my trusty cousin.But she's all.

It was a bit easy cause she has a care-taking fetish..

[•.*°•☆. Q .☆•°*.•]

Amy, I'm so sorry that your family tried to make you feel ashamed of the fetish. That's really, really awful and they had NO right.

Thanks. It rather messed me up for a bit, actually, I'm only just now becoming comfortable with my fetish this year. I'm just glad there are so many supportive and open-minded people around that balance that experience out

[nolongeractive]

It frustrates me to see those kind of really harsh, negative reactions. I'll never understand why some people are so mean about it. People should be way more understanding! I've never told anyone that didn't have a fetish themselves/were very trustworthy, so thankfully everyone's been understanding. I would be so mortified if I had an experience like that. I'm glad you all are doing better now! I don't think you should have to regret what you did but they should regret acting that way to you.

[SomeoneRandom]

I'm sorry your mom did that to you. Really. You didn't deserve that.

Ironically, the only one I regret telling was my former therapist. She didn't react well, and then of course she had to sneeze later in the session, and I wanted to die.

I've told a couple friends, who thought it was just funny/quirky. I've told romantic interests, whose first reactions were that it was funny/quirky, but were then very excited to sneeze for me... The reason I told those two friends was because I knew that they were open and wouldn't judge me. You have to know whether your friends are open-minded when it comes to sexuality. Feel them out first - are they accepting of people with different sexual identities? If you mention a well known kink, like BDSM or a foot fetish, do they act like it's a terrible thing?

[March Hare]

My ex-boyfriend didn't react well to my confessing the fetish to him. He had hay fever, so I thought he might like to know his girl could turn that into a sexy occasion, right? Wrong. He just didn't know what to do with it. It was awkward as hell. To be fair, he was a total virgin and a bit of a music nerd, so it was my fault as much as his that it didn't work out. I should have tutored him better. Only I didn't realise that at the time; I was simply resentful and a bit hurt by his apparent lack of interest and savoir faire. Oh, well.

My mum caught me out once when I was little. She'd found some of my fetishy drawings - of course I had no idea it was a fetish, then, and neither did she. She was just amused by my apparent fascination with sneezing, coughing, sniffly people. Unfortunately, she didn't mind sharing her amusement with me. I was so embarrassed I could have hidden in a teacup.