Meeting a fetishist...

[Snottygurl]

Have any of you out there ever physically met up with anyone you've talked to within the sneeze fetish community? If so how did it go? If not would you ever consider it?

[Niceguy]

I tried meeting up with on of the forum members YEARS ago - like 15? - when I was over in England for a week. There was some kind of get together going on that I'd hoped to join in on. We spoke briefly on the phone, but I couldn't make it. So I guess, yes, I would consider it, provided that there would be an ocean between us afterwards. LOL

[tma]

This topic surfaces fairly often.

I've met up with 7 people- 6 meet ups. All of them were great. People were terrific and it wasn't awkward and it wasn't sf-y (because I just wanted to hang out as people). One person stayed over for a few days and when they came it was like we'd known each other forever.

There are a bunch of people that I'd like to meet up with (if money wasn't an issue there'd be overseas trips in order). I'm hoping to meet up with with 3 or 4 people this summer (fingers crossed).

I wouldn't consider meeting up with a person (especially male) unless I felt *very* comfortable with them. And I am SO not about the big "group get together"s unless there would be a bunch of people that I would feel comfortable meeting. A random thing- not so much.

[Snottygurl]

This topic surfaces fairly often.

I've met up with 7 people- 6 meet ups. All of them were great. People were terrific and it wasn't awkward and it wasn't sf-y (because I just wanted to hang out as people). One person stayed over for a few days and when they came it was like we'd known each other forever.

There are a bunch of people that I'd like to meet up with (if money wasn't an issue there'd be overseas trips in order). I'm hoping to meet up with with 3 or 4 people this summer (fingers crossed).

I wouldn't consider meeting up with a person (especially male) unless I felt *very* comfortable with them. And I am SO not about the big "group get together"s unless there would be a bunch of people that I would feel comfortable meeting. A random thing- not so much.

Wow that's awesome! It's a very tempting idea for me but I don't know if I could ever bring myself to actually do it. I'm not even really very comfortable video chatting with other fetishists and I get invites for that on a daily basis lol.

[Snottygurl]

I tried meeting up with on of the forum members YEARS ago - like 15? - when I was over in England for a week. There was some kind of get together going on that I'd hoped to join in on. We spoke briefly on the phone, but I couldn't make it. So I guess, yes, I would consider it, provided that there would be an ocean between us afterwards. LOL

Well I suppose they couldn't stalk you afterwards with an ocean in the way lol

[VoOs]

I've met four other fetishists over the years, on... seven different occasions so far, I think? Good times. Sometimes complicated. But always interesting.

I think of it more as meeting up with online friends rather than 'meeting other fetishists', even if they happen to be that too. It's always fun to have a giggle with fellow forummers over the kink IRL, but that has never been the main focus of our meet-ups.

Main focus was always: "OMG IT'S REALLY YOU. *touch* "

[Lynne]

I think I'm up to 9 or 10 now?

[webmeistro]

I think I speak for most of the people here; it would be potentially fun to meet another, but a bit too awkward for my taste. Also I'm lazy. Very, very lazy.

I've Skyped with half a dozen people here, which is about as far as I'd want.

[Mercury]

In theory I'd like to, but I don't know anyone here that well and I'm awkward enough in normal social situations, let alone with someone I met online.

One day, maybe, if I actually become good enough friends with someone, but I'd have to go overseas as there aren't an overt amount of Aussies here.

[MyOwnPrivateSFC]

I've only met up with one so far, but we meet up about once a year. We mostly see each other as just friends who have stuff in common: fandoms, asexuality, religion, etc. Our shared fetish is part of that, but only a tiny part (for example, less than five minutes of the three days we recently spent together). I would like to meet up with several other people I know from here, but in exactly the same way.

[zneeze]

I met up with a wonderful member here because she was already incidentally in my town for another reason. No fetish material came up, but none had to - that's just how our friendship is. And it was a very fun time!

[Jorm]

I've met two fellow fetishist and have (mostly somewhat vague) plans to meet up with several others. The first person I met I pretty much dove in head first I went half way across the country and stayed at their house for a week. But we had gotten to know each other really well online and over the phone long before I flew out to stay, so it really didn't feel like a first time meeting at all.

The other person I've hung out with in person lives much closer to me, so we just met up in the nearest city for an afternoon. And again, we had already been friends online for a long time before we decided to meet in person.

Like tma, I wouldn't agree to meet in person with someone unless I had already gotten to know them well and felt very comfortable with them. Just how close I would want to be to someone would depend on the situation though. If we were meeting somewhere public I wouldn't be as rigid about how well I had to know them, but if I was going to be one on one with them somewhere private like one of our homes I would need to have spent a lot of time getting to know them to be comfortable will that.

ETA:

I think of it more as meeting up with online friends rather than 'meeting other fetishists', even if they happen to be that too. Posted Image It's always fun to have a giggle with fellow forummers over the kink IRL, but that has never been the main focus of our meet-ups.

Yes! This exactly! I'm far less interested in meeting people because of our sharing a fetish than I am simply because I've become friends with them. The shared fetish is just a fun, silly bonus to, like VoOs says, really just giggle about. I don't think I talked about my own sneezes with either of the people I met, nor did they talk about theirs. We talked a little bit about fandom characters in a fetishy way, but most we would just occasionally nudge each other and go "Look! A florists shop! *GIGGLE*" Just because it's really novel to see certain things and know the person with you is thinking the same thing as you.

Edited April 11, 2014 by Ouroboros

[HarleyQuinnSFF]

I have not but would love to (on a friend-non fetishy level). I'm too shy for in person. Tried to meet up with a couple of members but I wasn't comfortable with the setting so I backed out.

[Merc_With_A_Mouth_69]

The premise sounds really interesting. But since I've only recently stopped being a lurker, I haven't yet formed close enough bonds with anyone yet.

[Dusty15]

I've met one in real life (*waves* Hi Salamander) and talk very often off-forum with a few others. Again, people I have a long-running relationship with and any meet-up wouldn't be sexual. Sal and I met as friends and writing partners and had a lovely, social time with some giggling over kink stuff.

[Heavy-Chevy]

The idea sounds nice but I don't think I'm ready to meet another fetishist in person just yet. Kind of shy, socially.

[Snottygurl]

Wow guys thanks for all the feedback! I am honestly surprised that there are so many that have met. I do like the idea though of just becoming friends with someone and then meeting on a non fetishy level. Maybe someday...

[chessgod]

I have only chatted with one over the phone from time to time, but never met one in person....I would love to though and would consider going out of the way to do so with the right person, setting, etc. but I would prefer though one closer to my age....

[squealofapproval]

I live in the Deep South, how many do you think I have met? I think if I become a celebrity, I'll fly out and try to meet some of y'all, but you're gonna have to use a code word. How about pickles?

[Bisc]

Main focus was always: "OMG IT'S REALLY YOU. *touch* "

ive never met anyone on here before for many reasons

a) i dont know anyone on here from england xD

my social anxiety has a 50% chance of turning me into a creepy statue woman who would just stare awkwardly at you

but if i ever did then this is how i would react!

[squealofapproval]

I think people would like me much better in person. There's only so much a keyboard can convey.

[peach2218]

I never have, but would love to. I see that there are a few people on here who actually have met up with other people who share the fetish in a strictly friendly setting, and that sounds great too. But I'm curious to know, for those of you who have met fellow fetishists: what did you do when you or the other fetishist sneezed, if that happened while you were together? I feel as if it would either be very awkward or extremely funny.

[MyOwnPrivateSFC]

I don't remember if my Forum friend ever sneezed while we were together, but I know I have. In one case, when we were basically alone, I seem to recall her blessing me, and then us kind of giggling for a moment. In another, when we were with non-SF friends, I don't know if she ignored my sneezes on purpose, or if she just didn't even hear them (because I always stifle). Either way, for me, there was definitely a little feeling of self-consciousness, but no real embarrassment. More amusement than anything else.

[quantumsneeze42]

I would love to be able to meet people in real life who share this interest/fetish. I think it would be a lot of fun But I would have to make up some reason for going out and meeting friends because my SO has no idea that I share this fetish! It would be really fun to not have to censor myself when I want to talk about sneezing (like after seeing it in a film or something) because I would be around people who understood. It would also be fun to meet new people and make new friends too!

[3-26]

I have wondered the same thing before. It might be interesting, but I am also very socially anxious and awkward.