Does She Have The Fetish?

[darkness-is-the-light]

(I'm sorry if this is in the wrong place. Feel free to move it if it's in the wrong spot.)

I have a good friend, let's call her Ariana. (Name changed) Today during lunch she had a notebook with her, (Long story) and I tried to grab it to look at the notes we had made. Well, before I can even touch it, she grabs it away. Ariana flips through the book, showing we briefly what was in the book so that I didn't personally browse through it. On one of the pages I see the word "Sneeze".

She flips through the rest of the book then closes it. I ask her to give it to me, but she says no. I tell her that I want to read it, but still get no as an answer. (At this point I generally what to know what the poem said. (It was a poem) All she tells me is that it's weird and personal. Ariana then proceeds to grab the book and sit on it, preventing me from getting it.

After endless times of trying to get the notebook, I give up. (Only physically though) I keep asking her why I can't read it. Again the same response, she thinks that it's too weird. I explain to her that I'll give an embarrassing piece of information if she gives me hers. She still says no. I eventually give up.

At this point I think that she maybe has the fetish but doesn't want to admit it because she thinks I'll find her weird. What do you think? May she have the fetish?

[GenieBenie]

That would be interesting! I suppose it is possible! If so, she must be embarrassed. I would leave the notebook alone if I were you. (Although I understand, I am veeeery nosy! )Try talking about sneezing with her nonchalantly. See how she reacts, if at all. A lot of are very good at hiding it though. If she does have it, and you share it with each other, that could be a beautiful friendship Good luck!

[Not_Telling]

She could! Oh my goodness, that would be wonderful

[Winterloverman]

It's possible that she does.

Have you ever seen or heard her sneeze before?

[vote_for_pedro]

Maybe she figured out you have a sneeze fetish and she doesn't want you to know.

[Guest]

Eh, lots of things (like TV, books) have sneezing in them for no reason(?), so if there's something about sneezing in her poem, I'd say it's probably just in there because she felt like adding it. Definitely follow GenieBenie's advice and casually talk to her about sneezing once in a while, and pay close attention to her response. If you "accidentally" get another look in her notebook, you could ask her what caused the sneezing, and then talk about your allergies (if you have any), just to keep the conversation flowing. But just don't be too forward about it

[murphy dee]

She most likely doesn't have the fetish, her poem just happened to contain the word 'sneeze'. I mean, people without the fetish use that word too. Just sayin'.

And next time, just let it go. There is literally nothing more aggravating on this earth than someone begging over and over again to see something personal that you wrote/drew/etc...

[tma]

And next time, just let it go. There is literally nothing more aggravating on this earth than someone begging over and over again to see something personal that you wrote/drew/etc...

I do have to agree. Well,there probably are more aggravating things, but this is one that is a big one. Whether or not she has the fetish and whether or not you offered to trade "embarrassing thing" for "embarrassing thing" - she obviously for whatever reason didn't want to show you. Might be because of fetish, might be because she knows that you have one and that would be awkward for her, and it might be that it is a regular poem that happens to have that word in, but she feels private and embarrass about showing it because she either thinks that it isn't good enough, or it is just a piece of writing that is really personal for whatever reason. I don't know that we can say off of one word.

I am certain that there wasn't any bad intentions, (and I hope you don't feel picked on or like I'm anti- you, because I'm not) but I'm just trying to state how it might feel to be on the other side. I have been on the other side and I HATE it. Makes me want to crawl into a box and not come out.

I hope that if she does have the fetish (it sounds like you hope that she does), then in her own time that she will open up to you and you can share stuff about that too. All the best!

Edited May 23, 2014 by tma

[NoV]

Try talking about sneezing with her nonchalantly. See how she reacts, if at all.

I think that this is your best course of action. Watch how she responds when you say the word 'sneeze' - if anyone can spot a sneeze fetishist, its gotta be another fetishist

[greatestever]

I don't think people realize just how rare the fetish is. Most of the time, these stories are just wishful thinking. Sorry to burst your bubble.

[Bondi]

Lets suppose she has the fetish. You don't know what her comfort level is with this fetish so if you try and confront her on it, it could make her feel very awkward and embarrassed and uncomfortable because now she might feel like she's having it all shoved in her face. It might be a better idea to let her discover this fetish for herself and take at her own pace. Of course, you could always just come out and say that you have the fetish and see how she reacts to that. But then that might also make her uncomfortable. And if she doesn't have the fetish, you've just outed yourself to her, which is something you might or might not be okay with, I don't know. But of course, how you handle it is entirely up to you.

[3-26]

If casually bringing it up doesn't help you figure it out, I would say that honesty may be the best policy, if you trust her. It's up to you, of course; it can be really scary to tell, but sometimes it's worth it.

[MoonDuck]

You can wait for someone to sneeze and then look at her to see her reaction. I've done it before, and now I'm convinced that someone has the fetish Also, don't be so sure that she does; if she doesn't, it might be really weird if you choose to ask her.