How to keep yourself from telling and other questions...

[YoriYori]

Yup. Another topic dealing with telling. I'm one of the majority (or at least it seems so) that keeps the fetish a secret from everyone. Even my SO. I've thought about telling him sometimes, but continually decide against it feeling that it suits me fine to keep it a secret... until last night...

Last night I had a runny/itchy/stuffy nose for no apparent reason. My boyfriend asked if I was having trouble sleeping from the stuffiness. I said yes... even though it was more likely from the caffeine I had too close to bed time hehe . As I was lying in bed he put some tissues in my hand and told me to close my eyes. He then proceeded to tickle my nose with a rolled up tissue (fetish style) insisting that if I sneezed the stuffiness would go away and I'd feel better. When I realized what he was doing I laughed and playfully resisted, but as you might imagine, my brain was just about in meltdown . I literally I lost feeling in my legs for a moment out of pure excitement (which is a bit weird since I don't really find my own sneezing attractive). Unfortunately, he had no clue. But it was just so awesome that... it was incredibly, painfully difficult to keep from confessing. I mean, obviously the man has no problem with sneezing or snot, so at this point I'm not worried he'd think it gross. Some of the vulnerable situations I've been in with him present since we've been dating... have made me so much less concerned about that.

The further and further we get in the relationship, the more keeping it a secret makes me feel... distant from him :/. It's probably one of the most private things about my entire being, and I don't share that information with the person who is closer to me than anyone else in the world. That realization made me feel incredibly lonely to the point where I cried over it.

I'm just wondering if anyone has felt that same sadness.

-How did you deal with it?

-Do you ever continually debate with yourself whether or not to tell?

-If you desperately want to tell, but think it won't help anything, what things to you tell yourself to keep quiet?

I'm afraid that I'm in a lose-(great potential for)loss situation here. I don't tell him: I continue to feel lonely... but can secretly enjoy the heck out of sneezey stuff without him knowing. I DO tell him, and even if he doesn't think it's lame, it just doesn't hold any meaning to him, so my secret fun time... like the situation that happened last night (oh god, I'd love for that to happen again... this is actually the second time but more intense since he surprised me with it...)... won't be a secret and maybe wont even be fun anymore.

The other big concern which I can't go into big detail in here as this is an all-ages section is... it wouldn't be a um... useful tool for... well... you know... "having fun" since for various reasons he is currently unable to do so. :/ So it feels like it might be in vain anyway...

Edited May 29, 2014 by cherry

[IthoughtIwastheonlyone]

Yup. Another topic dealing with telling. I'm one of the majority (or at least it seems so) that keeps the fetish a secret from everyone. Even my SO. I've thought about telling him sometimes, but continually decide against it feeling that it suits me fine to keep it a secret... until last night...

Last night I had a runny/itchy/stuffy nose for no apparent reason. My boyfriend asked if I was having trouble sleeping from the stuffiness. I said yes... even though it was more likely from the caffeine I had too close to bed time hehe . As I was lying in bed he put some tissues in my hand and told me to close my eyes. He then proceeded to tickle my nose with a rolled up tissue (fetish style) insisting that if I sneezed the stuffiness would go away and I'd feel better. When I realized what he was doing I laughed and playfully resisted, but as you might imagine, my brain was just about in meltdown . I literally I lost feeling in my legs for a moment out of pure excitement (which is a bit weird since I don't really find my own sneezing attractive). Unfortunately, he had no clue. But it was just so awesome that... it was incredibly, painfully difficult to keep from confessing. I mean, obviously the man has no problem with sneezing or snot, so at this point I'm not worried he'd think it gross. Some of the vulnerable situations I've been in with him present since we've been dating... have made me so much less concerned about that.

The further and further we get in the relationship, the more keeping it a secret makes me feel... distant from him :/. It's probably one of the most private things about my entire being, and I don't share that information with the person who is closer to me than anyone else in the world. That realization made me feel incredibly lonely to the point where I cried over it.

I'm just wondering if anyone has felt that same sadness.

-How did you deal with it?

-Do you ever continually debate with yourself whether or not to tell?

-If you desperately want to tell, but think it won't help anything, what things to you tell yourself to keep quiet?

I'm afraid that I'm in a lose-(great potential for)loss situation here. I don't tell him: I continue to feel lonely... but can secretly enjoy the heck out of sneezey stuff without him knowing. I DO tell him, and even if he doesn't think it's lame, it just doesn't hold any meaning to him, so my secret fun time... like the situation that happened last night (oh god, I'd love for that to happen again... this is actually the second time but more intense since he surprised me with it...)... won't be a secret and maybe wont even be fun anymore.

The other big concern which I can't go into big detail in here as this is an all-ages section is... it wouldn't be a um... useful tool for... well... you know... "having fun" since for various reasons he is currently unable to do so. :/ So it feels like it might be in vain anyway...

How I understand you!

I don't really know how to help you but if it helps a bit I feel exactly the same...

I've been about to tell to two best friends yesterday. At one point I really thought I was about to talk about it, then suddenly I thought about how difficult it would have been to use the right words and make them understand, and thinking of pronouncing the word "sneeze" made me feel awfully bad, so I did not tell them in the end and I realised I will never be able to talk about this!!!

However, it looks like your boyfriend would understand, if I had to tell, I would tell to a person like him!

Maybe you should try to tell...