Meeting people is easy

[Thom]

I'm way too shy (and perhaps antisocial!) to ever do this myself, unfortunately, but I love hearing stories about when people from the forum here get together in real life. I know most everyone says that nothing fetishy happens usually (which is a good thing!) and that its just like meeting and being friends with any other person. But still, I think its cool that there's always this little secret between them, and that, in the event that someone in the coffee shop or whatever store around them sneezed, there would be a knowing glance and smile between the two. (Also, I bet it has to be a cool feeling to feel a sneeze coming while around a fellow fetishist, providing the two of you are comfortable enough and good enough friends at that point that it wouldn't be weird).

Am I completely off base with what its like to meet a fellow fetishist? Anyone brave souls want to share any highlights from in-person meetups?

[Guest]

Thom.. you are not off-base at all , two fetishists meeting is quite a cool thing and worth the effort as long as you both have got to know each other on the forum beforehand ...

[Nas]

I've met one member a couple of times, and it was awesome! While we didn't have the "knowing" glance (since no one sneezed in our presence), your take on a fetish meet up pretty much matched what it was like! The coolest part was that we didn't have to say anything like "I have a sneeze fetish" because, (obviously) we both already knew!

Honestly, my favorite part was the fact that we were just talking face to face. When you're talking on a computer, it's different, because you can sit down and really think of a reply to a PM, but irl you don't have that. It just feels more natural, I guess. And the cool thing was that we could talk about the forum, and we could share our dislike for family sneezing, and we both understood. XD

[March Hare]

You're right on the money, actually.

As far as I'm concerned, it's just too dang bad that so many of you live on the other dang side of the globe, because I haven't met nearly enough of you people in the flesh, and that's a fact!

[Dusty15]

It's pretty much as you described, Thom! I was pretty nervous about the whole thing, but we ended up having a lovely afternoon and there were only a few mentions of the 'you know what' Mostly in knowing glances and giggles!

[PuddinPop]

It's so much fun

I was super nervous the first time I met someone from here, especially as they came to my house (Joal you rebel )

But it was great! Me and Joal have shared knowing glances (the woman in Cambridge blowing her nose mue hue hue) amd I have done it in front of other fetishists (almost getting one run over... oops) but I seriously thought it would be awkward whenever that topic came up but it isn't!

The thing is, all the fetishists I have met have been like me: not completely and utterly at a loss whenever anyone sneezes we've spent so many years hiding it that it comes as something to giggle at rather than anything else.

OH there was that time I almost got sneezed on by a guy in a shopping centre and Joal almost fell over laughing at my face

[tameMe]

Thom, your lucky to be such a paranoid android, you can't just say "OK COMPUTER" every single time someone yuppies networking try to convince you down is the new up. What if they are bodysnatchers? You stay home forever, where 2 & 2 always make a five, and there are no surprises. You know that the jigsaws won't fall into place if you try to be jonny-on-the-spot and arrange an online "meeting in the aisle" with someone who would leave you high and dry, just keep everything in its right place. It would be a let down if you forgot to water your fake plastic trees anyway. /sitdown

I wouldn't mind hanging out with a friend I made with the fetish, as long as it wasn't like "Where should we meet?" "It's cold season, how about the doctor's office?".

/standup

JK I have no idea what I'm talking about. it'll be a glorious day when you discover that meeting people is easy.

[March Hare]

Thom, your lucky to be such a paranoid android, you can't just say "OK COMPUTER" every single time someone yuppies networking try to convince you down is the new up. What if they are bodysnatchers? You stay home forever, where 2 & 2 always make a five, and there are no surprises. You know that the jigsaws won't fall into place if you try to be jonny-on-the-spot and arrange an online "meeting in the aisle" with someone who would leave you high and dry, just keep everything in its right place. It would be a let down if you forgot to water your fake plastic trees anyway. /sitdown

...are you quite all right?

[skater]

Thom, your lucky to be such a paranoid android, you can't just say "OK COMPUTER" every single time someone yuppies networking try to convince you down is the new up. What if they are bodysnatchers? You stay home forever, where 2 & 2 always make a five, and there are no surprises. You know that the jigsaws won't fall into place if you try to be jonny-on-the-spot and arrange an online "meeting in the aisle" with someone who would leave you high and dry, just keep everything in its right place. It would be a let down if you forgot to water your fake plastic trees anyway. /sitdown

Hysterical and useless

[Arty]

I wouldn't mind meeting someone from the forum but I'm so nervous.

[Juto]

I wouldn't mind meeting someone from the forum but I'm so nervous.

I'm with Arty on this one. Meeting a fellow fetishist would be a fun and unique experience I think, but I'm afraid I would be too self conscious to really enjoy it. But I love reading about members that have become friends through this forum.

[Melody]

I would love to meet my friends from here... Honestly having the same fetish isn't the reason why I would want to meet them, I have just made so many lovely friends on here that I would love to hang with in person

[bloom]

I would love to meet my friends from here... Honestly having the same fetish isn't the reason why I would want to meet them, I have just made so many lovely friends on here that I would love to hang with in person

Right, this exactly. They're just my friends rather than my "fetish friends." The fetish comes up sometimes because it's something we all mutually giggle about, but it's not the core focus of our friendships at all.

I spontaneously decided to go meet up with a forum friend last week, basically out of the blue. It was a good time and I even just went to her apartment like all the meeting-people-on-the-internet guides tell you not to do the first time you meet with someone. Neither of us ax-murdered the other, though, so all was well. There are about a dozen other people from here I'm still dying to meet so hopefully I'll be doing it a lot more times with a lot more people! Three down so far, many more to go.

[tma]

Maru- why is there a Pond? Seriously, I'd LOVE to hang with you and some of my other European friends. Stupid ocean

I've met up with some people from here (some are still around, others haven't been here in years). I've met 7 people in total various times and one person stayed here for a few days. All the meet-ups, I was nervous, but once I saw them in person it was just as if we had known each other for forever - which... considering that the get-togethers were all with people that I had literally known for *years* makes sense.

A couple of girls that I got together with- we would exchange the "look" and giggle a little at things. The guys- we didn't do anything like that at all. With anyone that I'm friends with from here- the friendship is totally first and the other aspect - if it comes up and we're comfortable- that's cool.

[Joal 555]

I was super nervous the first time I met someone from here, especially as they came to my house (Joal you rebel )

For information, the house has a lovely garden

Me and Joal have shared knowing glances (the woman in Cambridge blowing her nose mue hue hue)

Happy days.......also the woman who cupped her hands over her mouth and nose, raising our hopes, until we realised it was just a yawn

As others have said, the joy is meeting people that you have built up a strong relationship with on the forum - any fetish element is just a bonus/giggle.

[TheCakeIsAlive]

That reminds me about that time in the museum in Nottingham with the woman complaining about sneezing a lot in a more-than-usually over the top way. Joal, your face was priceless. I couldn't stop laughing.

After talking a lot on here first (chatroom's lovely), I have, to date, met 7 members and skyped with a few more and they were, without exception, all lovely. All of them are also people I talk more about life, the universe and everything than the forum, which helps too.

[March Hare]

Of course, forum gossip is a massive added bonus. Reminds me of my time in the student society.

[RediChalyn]

I would love to meet some people from on here, but I'm really shy irl until you actually get to know me...it's the "getting to know" idea that's a bit foreign. Also I live in a small town and haven't really gotten to know anyone from my country on here yet...plenty of people from other countries but sadly I'm not able to go overseas yet