Boyfriend sneezes

[frolicking periwinkle]

I have been thinking about this post for weeks, and just can't wait another moment. My boyfriend has the most lovely, and interesting sneezes I've ever heard. He has no build up. It's just talk talk talk achoo talk talk talk... And its always covered in a handkerchief that I never see him withdraw... and it's always perfectly timed.

Yesterday, he told me about how he got stuck in the rain at work, and he and his team had to work outside in the rain for two hours. And during this conversation he sneezed. & I was so happy that it was over the phone because wow was I turned on.

Having already disclosed my fetish to one person, I swear I would never do it again. But it's going to be difficult to keep this one from him.

[Leafeon78]

Sounds very interesting good luck

[happybunny]

ah so cute! How did telling your fetish to the other guy go?

[frolicking periwinkle]

Badly. He was so embarrassed by it that he closed himself off to me. It contributed to our break up. I'm done with the telling of this. I'll just enjoy it quietly.

[elements]

i"m so sorry to hear it didn't go well This guy's sneezes sound super cute. I'm happy you found him and can enjoy!

[Leafeon78]

I'm sorry to hear that too

[Sneezypanda]

I'm sorry to hear it didn't go well but not all of the people you date will be that close minded . Plus, if you want to have an intimate and involved long term relationship with someone, why would you want someone who can't respect your sexual preferences ? I say tell the person you're with when you feel it's right and when it feels like you want to take it further. Yes, you can have a sexual relationship without involving this aspect , but I think it's important to not hide things like this especially in the long term just for the future . But, I'm no love guru . Do what you feel is right, just my opinion haha.

[frolicking periwinkle]

I'm sorry to hear it didn't go well but not all of the people you date will be that close minded . Plus, if you want to have an intimate and involved long term relationship with someone, why would you want someone who can't respect your sexual preferences ? I say tell the person you're with when you feel it's right and when it feels like you want to take it further. Yes, you can have a sexual relationship without involving this aspect , but I think it's important to not hide things like this especially in the long term just for the future . But, I'm no love guru . Do what you feel is right, just my opinion haha.

I'm not sure how you equate this one fetish with all of the sex in a relationship. Our intimacy is fantastic, & I don't need this to be fulfilled by him in order for me to have the deepest most loving, respectful, amazing relationship I've ever had in my entire life. I prefer him not knowing, because then when he says innocent remarks like feeling chilled, for being caught in the rain or feeling exhausted and then giving me an amazing sneeze, he feels no onus on him to deliver and I get to be turned on by something so innocent and pure. This is the way I want my relationship, hence it being like this. There are plenty of other wonderful things we share, that I prefer to keep this to myself.

[Sneezypanda]

I never said that I equate this one fetish to all the sex in a relationship , all my point was is that you shouldn't feel like you HAVE to keep it secret. And even if he knew he wouldn't have to indulge you or anything, just respect every part of you. I'm happy that you've found someone so special , and I never meant to say that it's fetish or bust. Just that if you ever did want to tell him, you shouldn't look back to that one relationship before and let it scare you. Sorry if it's because of my wording.

[frolicking periwinkle]

Ah. When you put it that way, that makes more sense. The last time it brought to my attention how things change when people know about it. And part of what I love about this fetish is that I can hold it to myself and he never needs to know, because when they do you know the energy changes. And sometimes it's different, and complicated. But I don't like inducing, & I don't like it during play. So I don't want him to feel taken advantage of when he's vulnerable.. So that's why I choose to keep it quiet. And why I feel like I have to.

[Sneezypanda]

I definitely get that. They end up indulging you even more because they have no idea it effects you x) I get where you're coming from now.

[frolicking periwinkle]

Exactly, though sometimes I think he knows. Like the other day he told me him and his team got caught in the rain and soaked. Then they went inside he got chilled. He said his body temp had re-regulated then sneezed forcefully. So much in fact that he skipped a beat in talking. I was incredibly turned in, but he kept talking about his day and I kept fantasizing about what it would be like if we were together that night.