Getting attached to people

[ukrsneeze]

Good part of the day, guys! Just wanted to share with you..

It was always difficult to me to have friends. i don't know why, but when I try to talk with them, we just change topics.. ( there are no topics that I can say many things about them)

So it makes me not interesting conversator

Also there are not many things that I'm obsessed with.. That makes my friendship even more impossible.

And the main problem : If the person is kind, I get sooo attached with him/her.. So I get soo jealous when I see him talking to another guys/girls.. So terrible feelings inside..

After this the person is getting tired cause of me.. And stop being that kind and nice.. We almost stop our conversations..

What should you recommend me? Do you have the same problem?

Thanks. Always yours,

ukrsneeze

[Arty]

Well....you do have to understand that friendship does not just mean one person. You are allowed to have multiple friends. Hell some have multiple best friends. It's ok to feel jealous. Deal with your feelings and then communicate them with person. They won't know how you feel until you deal with it. It seems to me that you have an attachment thing where you bond with someone and you kinda want them all for yourself. I think it's fair on yourself and your friend that you sit them down and talk. That's the best I can give you. Pm me if you need anything.

[atchoum]

Here's a thought. If you try too hard at something, it often has the opposite effect. So if you go out trying hard to make friends, you might scare people off.

We have a lot of international students who come to Paris and who say they can't make friends with any local people. What I recommend is that they joint a sport group (squash, swimming, running, football - there are generally lots of sports associations) and in playing the sport they get to meet lots of people doing something together. That way, friendship can develop unconsciously, without anyone trying. *

So why not try a sports association for a sport you like, and just go with the group ?