Jealous of sneezy people, hate my mental block!

[sickfic*chick]

I have a problem I wanted to ask your opinion about. It's a bit long so bear with me. But seriously I need help so please read!

I'm really, really jealous of everyone who can sneeze without thinking about it or without any mental block or hindrance, especially my best friend. She often has allergies and cannot control her sneezes. I am the opposite. I have had a mental block for so many years and now that I'm trying to undo it, I've realized this is not an easy task. When I was a child up to my teens I hated getting attention from my mom for being sick whenever I caught a cold. So I formed a mental block and hid every single sneeze from my family. And since I was so used to hiding sneezes at home, I became unable to sneeze in front of peers as well. Whenever I felt the urge to sneeze a shock of anxiety would shoot through me and the urge would disappear. Since my later teenage years, I've realized what a glorious sensation sneezing is and how horribly unsatisfying it is when the urge to sneeze is not fulfilled. Plus, I've read about and seen videos of sexy sneezing girls and I feel like I am totally inadequate and can never compare. Sure, I'm confident about my physical appearance and am an attractive woman and when I do manage to sneeze (almost always alone in my room) my sneezes sound nice, but knowing that I cannot sneeze freely around others makes me feel totally un-sexy! I hate it! Seriously this problem is driving me absolutely crazy. I am someone who needs to discuss problems with others in order to feel better. So I've talked to my friend about my mental block and my infuriating attempts to undo it. She thinks my sneezes don't come out because I think about them too much. But I've noticed that the times I do sneeze are the times I'm able to concentrate on the sensation and "coax" it out by tuning out everything else in my environment and getting lost in the sensation. This requires me to stop whatever I'm doing and partake in long buildups with hitching. I don't exactly feel comfortable doing this in public or with others' eyes on me! I wish I could just feel the urge coming on super fast without time to pause on it and just get the sneeze out. So much rage. And sometimes it feels like no one will ever understand my frustration!

Any advice or insights? Any similar experiences?

[bingochamp7]

Hello. 

If you really want to start breaking your mental block, you can start by sneezing near people you are familiar with. For example, if you feel a sneeze coming when your friend or someone familiar is in your house, try sneezing out loud in another room first, so that the other person does not see you but still hears you if that makes sense. Then, slowly work your way to sneezing in front of familiar people and once you have mastered that, try it in public.

I hope that my advice made some sense.

[Pixieflower]

I sometimes feel the same way as you do - I can’t sneeze in front of others either! Like, when I’m in front of people and feel like I have to sneeze, I always tell myself “this is it, this is the day you’ll finally muster up the courage to sneeze in front of someone. Just do it already!” But then those thoughts are immediately followed by “But what if it sounds weird? What if I accedentally get snot on my sleeve? What if I won’t be able to stop once I start and everyone gets mad at me?” And  before I know it, the sneezy feeling is gone and I’ve lost my chance. 

Just remember, though, that most people don’t even notice, let alone like sneezing all that much. If anything, germaphobes will see it as a sign of sickness and be grossed out by it. In fact, the other day I was with a group of friends and one of my guy friends kept sneezing for some reason, and though I thought it was adorable, one of my other friends said, “Why do you keep sneezing? Are you sick or something?” And then she went on to explain her opinion that sneezing is gross and that she doesn’t like to be around people who sneeze so much, while I just stood there shifting my feet awkwardly and not saying a word(of course, she said it in a very joking way, the way I wrote it made it sound like she was being really mean😂).

So anyways, if I were you I wouldn’t worry about it too much, since people barely ever notice sneezing at all. Hope this helped!

 

[sickfic*chick]

On 1/19/2018 at 0:44 PM, bingochamp7 said:

Hello. 

If you really want to start breaking your mental block, you can start by sneezing near people you are familiar with. For example, if you feel a sneeze coming when your friend or someone familiar is in your house, try sneezing out loud in another room first, so that the other person does not see you but still hears you if that makes sense. Then, slowly work your way to sneezing in front of familiar people and once you have mastered that, try it in public.

I hope that my advice made some sense.

Yes this makes sense! I have done this successfully a couple times. I think I should be able to start again. Thanks

[sickfic*chick]

On 1/19/2018 at 4:37 PM, Pixieflower said:

I sometimes feel the same way as you do - I can’t sneeze in front of others either! Like, when I’m in front of people and feel like I have to sneeze, I always tell myself “this is it, this is the day you’ll finally muster up the courage to sneeze in front of someone. Just do it already!” But then those thoughts are immediately followed by “But what if it sounds weird? What if I accedentally get snot on my sleeve? What if I won’t be able to stop once I start and everyone gets mad at me?” And  before I know it, the sneezy feeling is gone and I’ve lost my chance. 

Just remember, though, that most people don’t even notice, let alone like sneezing all that much. If anything, germaphobes will see it as a sign of sickness and be grossed out by it. In fact, the other day I was with a group of friends and one of my guy friends kept sneezing for some reason, and though I thought it was adorable, one of my other friends said, “Why do you keep sneezing? Are you sick or something?” And then she went on to explain her opinion that sneezing is gross and that she doesn’t like to be around people who sneeze so much, while I just stood there shifting my feet awkwardly and not saying a word(of course, she said it in a very joking way, the way I wrote it made it sound like she was being really mean😂).

So anyways, if I were you I wouldn’t worry about it too much, since people barely ever notice sneezing at all. Hope this helped!

 

Thank you for replying! Yes this was helpful.

It's just nice to know that there are other people with the same struggles. I agree that it's good to remember the perspective of people without the fetish. They probably prefer that I don't sneeze too much and probably don't care most of the time. One time, just to prove to myself that I could break my mental block, I induced in my room with my door open while my family was hanging out in another room nearby. The sneeze came out kind of loud and a bit strained sounding cause it was difficult for me to get it out and I was a bit out of breath lol. I was proud of myself, but also really embarrassed. Since it had been so long since my family heard me sneeze, I expected someone to react or say something. But no one cared. I don't even think they noticed!

When my friend told me that my sneezes don't come out cause I think about them too much, I was a bit agitated. Since she doesn't have the fetish, she doesn't fully understand quite how frustrated I've been and how I've tried not to "think about them too much". But she was totally right. I need to just relax and stop worrying about it and maybe a sneeze will sneak out while my guard is down!

[Lexie13]

On 1/14/2018 at 2:21 PM, sickfic*chick said:

I have had a mental block for so many years and now that I'm trying to undo it, I've realized this is not an easy task.

Hi friend! I just figured I'd chime in here and say not only did I experience this same thing, but with a lot of work, I have been able to overcome it—so there is hope! 

Throughout middle school when I didn't really understand my fetish, I was SO uncomfortable with anyone hearing me sneeze. My mental block also started as completely intentional, and even started as more a physical block than anything; I came up with a million tactics to stop sneezes from completely forming, and eventually I trained myself to never sneeze in public. Not only did it become a huge inconvenience, as I'm sure you've experienced, but once I became more comfortable with my fetish, I started to want to sneeze (especially in front of certain people).

If I recall correctly, the tactic I used to overcome it was much like how people overcome all sorts of fears: every time I felt a sneeze coming (and I was in a situation where I felt comfortable sneezing—good advice on the part of @bingochamp7), I'd relax my whole body, internally assure myself that it really was okay to sneeze, and that no one would care as much as I did. It took a few years of steady progress, but the story is definitely one of success. Now I sneeze constantly in public (probably ~10 sets of 1-3 sneezes a day), and while sometimes I still feel a little weird about it depending on who I'm around, the mental block is completely gone. 

Hopefully that little success story gives you hope! I'm rooting for you!

[sickfic*chick]

22 hours ago, Lexie13 said:

Hopefully that little success story gives you hope! I'm rooting for you!

Your answer was so reassuring :). Even if it takes a really long time to get over the mental block, I should stay positive!