Heterosexual interested in homosexual opposites?

[AngelEyes]

So I'm a basically heterosexual female. But I'm totally not turned on by anything hetero. I'm way more interested in male homosexual pairings. I honestly spend most of my time thinking about gay sex. My ultimate fantasy would be a threesome with 2 guys. But not because I actually want the 2 guys myself, but because I want the 2 guys together. I'm pretty much always attracted to gay guys. (Which obviously doesn't work out in my favor) Is this weird? 

[Kaze Wo Hiku]

Nope. When I still considered myself hetero I had the same fantasies.  I was (and still am) into yaoi and BL in anime, I write M/M mostly. I remember....somewhere I think here someone addressed why most people who identify as female (normally hetero) are into this fantasy. I wish I remembered the link. But no I dont think thats weird at all. I know several females who either write or draw M/M mostly.

[bloom]

What you describe is a really common experience among gay trans men, actually. I know several for whom this was their exact experience until they came to terms with their true gender identity -- it might be worth exploring that if you feel able and willing to do that.

Otherwise, if you really are just a straight woman, it is weird/dehumanizing to be fantasizing about gay men having sex constantly. It's fetishization by reducing men who love men to something that's specifically for your own pleasure, and it's really self-explanatory as to why that's not a good thing, I think.

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[MyOwnPrivateSFC]

I was always this way, too, and then I realized that I think is has something to do with my being on the ace spectrum. In particular, with being autochorissexual (so, attracted to other people--in my case, of various genders--but not wanting to have sexual relations with anyone else): I found that my instinct when consuming porn/erotica/etc. was to (subconsciously) identify with one or more females in any given (sexual) situation, which made me VERY uncomfortable. But when there were only men in a scene--solo, paired, or otherwise--I was (and am) able to imagine myself observing, rather than participating, and that worked much better for me.

That said, I should mention that a part of my experience may also relate to what Junia said: I'm a genderqueer AFAB person whose self-identification as "female" swings wildly based on the context and situation. It is possible that if I were autochorissexual, but not uncomfortable with being traditionally female-bodied, I might do better with female-involved pornography...or maybe it would be the opposite. I don't really know.

[Shay]

I'm a AFAB, and for awhile I went through a phase where I vastly preferred M/M pairings. There were a lot of thoughts along the lines of being sad that I'd never be able to experience that type of relationship for myself. Now I'm at a point where I don't really care if it's a M/M pairing or an M/F pairing just so long as I really like the characters and think that they go well together. Sometimes I'll read F/F pairings, but it's generally my least favorite and I tend not to read them at all unless it's an allergy fic. So in general I really prefer at least one person in the pairing to be male, and if it's a sneeze fic, I want the male to be the one sneezing, but can sometimes enjoy female sneezing if the story is to my tastes. Outside of the fetish I'm generally attracted mostly to men, but am able to appreciate the beauty of women in an aesthetic sense. A few times in my life I did have minor crushes on other girls that were more tomboyish.

Anyway, for a large portion of my life I considered myself to be a straight female, but I've always had gender issues in that I really didn't consider myself to be feminine or at least not by society's standards. After learning a lot more about gender identity stuff I'm now starting to view myself as some flavor of non-binary and probably genderfluid. Though my therapist said he attended a workshop on this and they learned about like 25 different gender identities which is way more than I've ever learned about on my own. Maybe one of these days he'll actually remember to bring me the pamphlet on it like I keep asking because I'd be interested to know if there's anything that might fit me better than genderfluid. All I know is that some days I feel more feminine(by my own standards), other days I feel more masculine, and other days I don't really feel like one or the other. I really wished there was a way to change my gender to non-bianary when I recently had to renew my driver's licence.

[Masking]

I wouldn't worry - it's very common to imagine two people to whom you'd be attracted, being attracted to each other. Wanting to see more F/F is how I figured out I was bisexual.

[GoldenOwl]

No, it's not weird. Just different! As a gay man myself, this doesn't insult me at all - I don't even blink an eye at it, actually.