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So this thread is prompted by something I witnessed today. I was walking to class with a friend (M for simplicity's sake) when one of M's friends (let's call her R) ran up to her. R hugged M but not me since the two of us aren't really friends, and praise be because as R is hanging on to M in the hug, I hear her groan "Ugh I'm so sick, I shouldn't be here". M broke out of the hug after a few more seconds and the two proceeded to discuss how hyped up on cold medication R was. R sounded awful, and whether she should have been out of bed or not, she should not have been going around giving hugs. 

Now, I don't know if this is just me being the germaphobe I am, but I've always found it incredibly rude for someone who is moaning about how sick they are to then be entirely thoughtless about keeping their germs to themselves. If you're that sick, wouldn't you not want to give it to anyone else? I hate admitting that I'm sick, but I'll swallow my pride/fear/whatever if it means telling a friend "Maybe you shouldn't sip my drink, I'm sick..." etc. 

So, thoughts on the "etiquette" of being ill? What do you do/not do differently out of deference to others? 

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personally, i hole up in my room if i can, to try and contain the situation 

if i have to leave my room, i cover my mouth with my elbow when needed & wash my hands a lot, and i don't let anyone share my food or beverages

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In my house, I just stay in my room as much as I can. If I have to be in school or work, I cover my nose and mouth if I sneeze or cough. I try to keep myself at bay from others. And since I'm Mexican and hang out with other Mexicans, and Latinamericans, and we have a habit of doing physical contact whenever we greet or bid farewell to each other, I let them know that I'm sick before they get closer. 

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I still will go to classes, but won't even talk to anyone.  I'll like sanitize and wash my hands, and if I cough it's in my elbow/sleeve.  I absolutely wouldn't give a hug.  I think it's so inconsiderate of people who like cough openly or like touch other people while they're sick.  I don't tell people, but would tell my boyfriend if I ever were sick, because I wouldn't want to spread it.  I''d also lysol everything, when I'm at home or like in my new apartment.  I'm really afraid of spreading a virus I have to someone else.  I wish other people would be more considerate, because it genuinely causes me and some others I know distress.  Like if you're going to class or work, it isn't fair to the people around you to be exposed to that, but it's also understandable.  If you're trying your best to keep it to yourself, I'm very sympathetic to that.  I know everyone's not like that though.

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For me, my friends cancel plans and tell me if they or someone they are around has been sick. Or they will tell me people to avoid. The one time I remember being sick as an adult which just so happened to be this year....I canceled a volunteer event. 

Those who purposely try to infect someone or don’t bother being careful with their germs are disgusting. Point blank. 

As Cecilia said, people have to work and go to school when they are sick. Consideration and being careful goes a long way though. 

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Keep your hands clean and try as much as possible to not breathe into people's faces, that's really all you can do. Germs go around. It's almost impossible not to spread them, and while it's an effing nuisance to be sick, never getting sick at all will kill you in the end.

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Personally, and with my kids, I have always tried to instill good manners when it comes to being sick. And I think we have all done a great job. If they are super sick, we stay home from work/school/functions, just so that they don’t spread illness and can also get better. Cover their nose/mouth when coughing/sneezing. Refrain from touching everything if they do sneeze or cough on their hands. Those sort of manners I would expect from most people. As far as he hug goes, maybe they should have warned the person they were sick beforehand, then that person could have politely declined the hug.

However, for me, I am not one who gets super germaphobic, especially around people I know/am comfortable with. A simple hug with someone who has a cold doesn’t freak me out. Hugs probably won’t spread the virus. 

And to echo March Hare, getting sick once in awhile strengthens the immune system. It does suck to be ill, but even the most germaphobic people I know, still catch colds every once in awhile. 

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Well I'm not the best person to ask , since as an effect of chronic lyme's disease I got a weak immune system. As a result I have become a germophobe as well, and though I feel a little stupid for being like that, people who behave inconsiderately make me really, really angry. Even when I consciously decide I don't care and I'll be fine, my stomach clenches in response and I get stressed out to the point of not breathing fully. So , no, definitely not alright for people to "spread and share".

I know I've had the case recently : and it was even more difficult because the person I met wanted to congratulate me on something. She said "come here so i can kiss you on the cheek, you did so well" --so I felt a bit of a bitch for declining. But the person in question had Epstein Bar --which is both highly infectious and contagious, and considered one of the main co-infections to Lyme's disease. I've been through sleepless nights weeks on end because of it. So I said, no, thanks all the same...and she insisted "come on, just a hug!", and I refused again --back and forth 4 or 5 times! Urg. I felt both stupid and ill-at-ease (makes for an awkward sitch, especially with people around watching) but at the same time, hell...! She seriously pissed me off. Ambiguous reactions...

In the same manner, a guy on my work team was ill last year, and he was literally coughing uncovered all day long. I was disgusted and trying to avoid him as much as I could, but it wasn't really possible. A couple days later, we found out the guy had a case of the Measles...has killed a few people around us since. **grr**

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Okay, this actually a really good topic.

I don't really consider myself a germaphobe but as a singer, I do try to avoid getting sick.

If I know that someone around me is sick, I do get nervous & I will take extra precautions but that's just because I trust myself more to avoid the germs then I trust the person who is sick not to spread them.

I learned a valuable lesson when I was interning in as an ESOL teacher for college. I ended up catching a cold from being exposed to a bunch of Kindergartners & said cold turned in to laryngitis. While I was having a meltdown about losing my voice, my dad explained the dangers of over using hand sanitizer--which I was not aware of & of course, had been sanitizing my hands like a mad woman everyday. Ever since then, I have not been without a small spray bottle of cherry-almond scented 70%  isopropyl alcohol. I keep one bottle in my room & one in my purse. It works like a charm for cleaning my hands & doing things like cleaning my walker/wheelchair or sanitizing a table at a restaurant. Frankly, it's better than hand sanitizer; but nothing beats plain old soap & water. ^_^

If I'm sick, (Like I am right now.) I tend to stay in my room to avoid exposing people to my germs. I wipe down the computer with Lysol, I wash my hands frequently & this last one may be weird--but I actually wear an oversized hoodie so that it I ever need to cough, sneeze, wipe my nose, or rub my face, I 'm keeping all the germs contained within my person; rather than on my hands. Then as soon as I'm better, The petri dish sweater goes straight to the wash.

The one thing that really takes strict enforcing in my house is not eating or drinking off of another person. With my family it's just done without thought. Pretty much everybody tastes foods or sips off another person's drink without even asking. "I'm stealing a sip of this." "I'm tasting this to make sure it's not poison."

Even my sister-in-law does it. Almost every time she has an alcoholic beverage, we share from the same glass. Of course, if she ever wants to taste something of mine, she assure me that she's not sick & I do the same before even attempted to pick up her drink. It's just common courtesy but with my family, but as long as you aren't contagious...feel free to finish that half of whatever somebody else stated that they didn't want. B-P

I mean, don't get me wrong. My dad is an infectious disease specialist & my grandmother was a nurse so we know germs are dangerous but we just deal with them in a practical way. You're more likely to get germs from rubbing your eye than you are from eating/drinking off of someone. (But if they're sick, you probably still shouldn't.).

As someone with Cerebral Palsy, I fall under the immuno-compromised umbrella, but I take pretty good care of myself. I go outside a lot, I eat healthy, I take vitamins, I get the flu shot every year, I don't eat at buffets, I wear face masks in doctors offices & on planes. I don't get more than a once a year cold. Germs never really became a big deal in my house until my niece was born...but even then it was nothing more than "wash your hands before you play with the baby." Or "Sorry but if you're sick, we'd rather you not visit."

And it's never, ever rude to insist that somebody (An adult though, probably not a child.) who is sick keep their distance from you. You may not have a say in whether or not that person chose to come to work/school contagious but you have a say in weather or not they potentially infect you when it comes to your personal space.  

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8 hours ago, Alexandra Marie said:

Okay, this actually a really good topic.

I don't really consider myself a germaphobe but as a singer, I do try to avoid getting sick.

If I know that someone around me is sick, I do get nervous & I will take extra precautions but that's just because I trust myself more to avoid the germs then I trust the person who is sick not to spread them.

I learned a valuable lesson when I was interning in as an ESOL teacher for college. I ended up catching a cold from being exposed to a bunch of Kindergartners & said cold turned in to laryngitis. While I was having a meltdown about losing my voice, my dad explained the dangers of over using hand sanitizer--which I was not aware of & of course, had been sanitizing my hands like a mad woman everyday. Ever since then, I have not been without a small spray bottle of cherry-almond scented 70%  isopropyl alcohol. I keep one bottle in my room & one in my purse. It works like a charm for cleaning my hands & doing things like cleaning my walker/wheelchair or sanitizing a table at a restaurant. Frankly, it's better than hand sanitizer; but nothing beats plain old soap & water. ^_^

If I'm sick, (Like I am right now.) I tend to stay in my room to avoid exposing people to my germs. I wipe down the computer with Lysol, I wash my hands frequently & this last one may be weird--but I actually wear an oversized hoodie so that it I ever need to cough, sneeze, wipe my nose, or rub my face, I 'm keeping all the germs contained within my person; rather than on my hands. Then as soon as I'm better, The petri dish sweater goes straight to the wash.

The one thing that really takes strict enforcing in my house is not eating or drinking off of another person. With my family it's just done without thought. Pretty much everybody tastes foods or sips off another person's drink without even asking. "I'm stealing a sip of this." "I'm tasting this to make sure it's not poison."

Even my sister-in-law does it. Almost every time she has an alcoholic beverage, we share from the same glass. Of course, if she ever wants to taste something of mine, she assure me that she's not sick & I do the same before even attempted to pick up her drink. It's just common courtesy but with my family, but as long as you aren't contagious...feel free to finish that half of whatever somebody else stated that they didn't want. B-P

I mean, don't get me wrong. My dad is an infectious disease specialist & my grandmother was a nurse so we know germs are dangerous but we just deal with them in a practical way. You're more likely to get germs from rubbing your eye than you are from eating/drinking off of someone. (But if they're sick, you probably still shouldn't.).

As someone with Cerebral Palsy, I fall under the immuno-compromised umbrella, but I take pretty good care of myself. I go outside a lot, I eat healthy, I take vitamins, I get the flu shot every year, I don't eat at buffets, I wear face masks in doctors offices & on planes. I don't get more than a once a year cold. Germs never really became a big deal in my house until my niece was born...but even then it was nothing more than "wash your hands before you play with the baby." Or "Sorry but if you're sick, we'd rather you not visit."

And it's never, ever rude to insist that somebody (An adult though, probably not a child.) who is sick keep their distance from you. You may not have a say in whether or not that person chose to come to work/school contagious but you have a say in weather or not they potentially infect you when it comes to your personal space.  

I actually also wear a hoodie when I'm sick so I'll have a thick sleeve to sneeze into. (tissues aren't enough to contain them) Do you sneeze into the hoodie sleeve as well?

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45 minutes ago, ccv said:

I actually also wear a hoodie when I'm sick so I'll have a thick sleeve to sneeze into. (tissues aren't enough to contain them) Do you sneeze into the hoodie sleeve as well?

Yes, I mentioned in my original post that sneeze in to the sleeve of the hoodie.

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