Mental block for non-fetishists?

[Lauren]

I know some people have mentioned that their s/o develops a mental block after finding out about their fetish. But I'm wondering -- can people with nothing to do with the fetish have a mental block? 

I mean - not a fetishist, not somebody who knows a fetishist, not even somebody who knows that the fetish exists. Maybe somebody with OCD, or a germaphobe, or somebody who is excessively proper/polite would develop one? I'm not sure...

I was wondering about this because I've been seeing this new guy for over a month, and we've hung out quite a few times, including many sleepovers (so many opportunities for morning/night sneezes....) but I still haven't seen him sneeze! (Btw he doesn't know about the fetish.) 

Thoughts?

[•.*°•☆. Q .☆•°*.•]

some people just don't sneeze that much

[Sneesee]

I knew a guy who told me that he stopped sneezing in front of people in the 3rd grade. The story he told me was that he sneezed in class one day, and then needed to blow his nose. The tissues were on the teachers desk. He had to walk up there and then blow his nose in front of the whole class. He said he was super embarrassed, and so he associated sneezing with blowing his nose, and then just developed a mental block.  Absolutely nothing to do with this as a fetish.

[Bird]

I think that there are various triggers that can cause non-fetishists to have a certain degree of mental block. And I personally believe that embarrassment ist the main cause for it, especially if you made the experience that your sneezing is considered gross, disturbing or rude. For instance, I noticed that several of my colleagues are highly embarrassed when they have to sneeze and almost every single one of them goes to hide in a corner or suppresses their sneeze very thoroughly (I work in a health care facility). I also have a friend that told me he´d literally rather go up in flames than sneeze audibly in public, just because he´s a very timid person in general and doesn´t like to draw people´s attention in whatever way. I don´t know if this is a general thing, but someone recently told me that it is nowadays even considered to be rude when you bless someone because "it draws even more attention to this already embarrassing situation"...

But that being said, the person you´re seeing may not have any mental block and may even be a frequent sneezer who´s just having kind of a drought period. My s/o for instance has no mental block whatsoever (he´s so obvious sometimes it makes me feel very uncomfortable) and even suffers from hayfever, but there are periods where he doesn´t sneeze a single time for up to 3 months. I hope you´re not too frustrated in your current situation  

[CheekyGuy]

I think the reasons some get a block about sneezing or nose blowing, or other related things, may be not unrelated to some of the things we like so much about them. Those wanting to seem in control all the time may feel vulnerable, at the mercy of bodily functions, or may be very self-conscious about the sounds they make (with gushing or honking nose blows which will be clearly audible to others). But the vulnerability, the potential for embarrassment, are things which make such activities so attractive and exiting to see, no? 

I remember once in Belgium watching an attractive blonde woman in her early 20s coming out of a building and blowing her nose in a very ceremonious way - it was a big and snotty blow into a tissue, but she looked almost proud when doing it, or possibly a bit ‘daring’, not a trace of self-consciousness, and seeming to enjoy doing it, even wanting others to see. Maybe she was a fetishist herself. But this struck me as especially unusual, which made me think more about why many do have a block, especially in public.

I notice a difference in male changing rooms and toilets (bathrooms for US people!) - many much more openly sneezing and blowing there. Maybe this relates to being more embarrassed about doing so in the presence of the opposite sex? How does this compare with female toilets/changing rooms? 

 

 

Edited January 20, 2019 by CheekyGuy