People who ask you if you're sick whenever you sneeze

[Shamaël]

Does anyone have a problem with people who ask you if you're sick as soon as you sneeze in front of them? I hate it and I tend to answer them harshly because it's just one sneeze, it doesn't necessary mean you've got a cold!!! I don't like getting attention when I'm sick, even less when I sneeze randomly... And what's most frustrating is that I don't even know why it upsets me so. It's not only because someone draws attention upon my sneezing, but I can't explain why I hate this to much. My mother just did it on the phone and it upset me badly.I wondered if anyone here had ever had a similar experience?

[Anonymouse]

I think it's super cute. I might think differently if I was actually the one sneezing, but since that never happens I enjoy listening to the conversations that unfold when someone asks that question. I think it's adorable when people overreact to a single sneeze, because it is so absurd to attribute it to illness; people sneeze all the time. But it shows such attentiveness. I guess if someone was asking in a nasty way like ew u sick?????? I wouldn't be so charmed.

I see why it bothered you if it was your mom saying it!

[Kicker]

When my romantic partners ask, I like it. I'm like oOOoOoO ~ quit fliriting ;)) ~ but if it's like, anyone else, I get kind of uncomfortable. If my MOM asked me, I would scream. 

[Spoo]

I never sneeze in front of anyone but my boyfriend, so I can’t say that I know the feeling. I agree that if it’s done between two partners it’s cute, but when it’s just someone else I can see how it would be awkward and weird. I know I hate it when my mom asks other people if they’re getting sick/have allergies based on one sneeze.  

[Reader]

I’m pretty skilled at taming a sneeze into silence if it does come or making the sneeze go away. BUT, *for some reason, laughing too much can make me have to cough hours later just for two seconds. That cough sounds cloudy. Ugh, one time my friend asked me if I was getting sick and I hated it sooooooo much.  

*I would love to know the reason. 

[Sneesee]

I am very much like this. It annoys me. My ex-husband used to do that to me. I rarely sneezed in front of him, but a few times I did, instead of blessing me he would ask if I was getting sick. And it bothered me so much. I totally get it.

[Rook]

I hate attention of any kind when im sick except from a select few and even them im shyish

[Travel]

The only people who really do that to me are my parents, especially if it's a bunch of consecutive sneezes. Or they ask me if I'm cold or if I'm having an allergy flare-up. I don't mind, but they make me a little nervous because if I say "No", I don't think they believe me. 😅

I have a co-worker that every time he hears me sniffling he tells me not to cry. I like the guy but that gets old fast. 

[Selene]

I'm not fond of someone doing it to me because I don't like attention when I'm sick or sneezing. But I love this in fiction, movies, and roleplays!

The idea is very sweet and adorable to me, just like @Anonymouse said. I just don't like being the person receiving all of this attention. 

I wonder whether this dislike for being the person who's asked the question is connected with parents doing it to their children? Many of you said their parents are usually the ones who ask if you' re getting sick after a single sneeze, so maybe that question is somehow connected to parental attention in the brain and therefore becomes so uncomfortable for us as adults who are aware of our fetish (much like family sneezes ) 

Edited February 1, 2019 by Selene

[Feo]

12 hours ago, Anonymouse said:

I enjoy listening to the conversations that unfold when someone asks that question.

I so agree! I LOVE to listen to these conversations!! "Do you have a cold?" and my heart beat faster! Comments on sickness (colds) is so much appreciated here!!

I detest getting comments from my parents when I have a cold and try to hide it for all its worth!! On the other hand I like it when friends asks if I have a cold.... Strangers; definitely not!

AND I LOVE THESE COMMENTS AND CONVERSATIONS IN FICTION!

Thanks for the topic @Aliena H.

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i think that it is SOOO cute and concerned. i love the attention and i think it's so attentive and sweet. 

unless yeah unless they're being like ew u sick about it then they're just jerk

but yeah like with anything else sneeze related if it was my mom i'd be like shut uUUUuuUUUP

[SneezyHolmes]

I hate it. Absolutely hate it. I don't like people drawing attention to my sneezes and I really hate when they pester me about being sick. It used to happen all the time whenever I worked the register at my job. Had someone even tell me once "Sounds like you've got a cold in your nose, haha!" and I wanted to shrivel away into nonexistence lol. In fiction/RP's though I don't mind reading about it or writing it. Basically as long as it's not directed at me, I'm fine.

[iojo]

Never happened to me, but then again I dont sneeze in public.

[Snapdragon]

Love it in fiction. HATE it IRL, unless it's my partner doing the asking. I'd rather die than sneeze in public and have someone call attention to it 😱

[Shamaël]

Wow, thanks everyone for your answers!!! It seems that we don't have the same opinion / feelings towards this kind of reaction... But I wonder if some of you haven't pointed out what really bothers me in this circumstance (and lots of us here): the fact that this question is often asked by parents to children. Now that I'm thinking about it, the only persons I know who do that repeatedly are my mother and my grandmother... That explains why I hate it so much I guess! I've been asked by collegues if I was sick (not after only one sneeze though) and it didn't upset me that much. I'm not a big fan, but I'm a master at changing the topic of the conversation. On the other way, imagining it in fiction isn't problematic at all.

I always marvel at how different my fetish (and I believe it's true for a lot of people on this forum) is in real life and in fictions. Not only for that kind of situation, but for lots and lots of other thnings as well. In real life, mess or uncovered sneezes urn me off instantly, whereas I can find it fascinating in fiction. Do you think that there are different parts of our brain that take care of real life and fantasies? It's always been a mystery to me. I've been daydreaming about some situations (linked to the fetish), but when I finally found the courage to ask my boyfriend to indulge me, it didn't turn me on the way I had imagined it would... I know it's a completely different topic, and maybe I should post it elsewhere, but did anyone experienced that kind of "disappointment", or difference between life and imagination?

Alyway, thanks to everyone for your answers! I'm feeling less lonely now!

[Elektra]

Maybe it's upsetting for some of us because it's something you *have absolutely no control over*, and you just want to say "shut up it's not fault and I didn't decide on it!"

My mother when I was a kid use to look at me with a frown everytime I had a bad cough, and she would go : "OOOOH." Like, "you're in danger, that's really wrong or something". I hated it, without knowing why. Now I do, a bit more;))

[Elektra]

On 1/31/2019 at 11:28 PM, Kicker said:

my romantic partners ask, I like it. I'm like oOOoOoO ~ quit fliriting ;))

That. So if we attribute it to romance and/or sex unconsciously, then it's awkward coming from the wrong source. And if it's just because it feels darn intimate, then you don't want someone pointing it out to you...

I'm very into H/C so I kind'a like it, but it depends on how when and by whom it's done.:)

[Chanel_no5]

I don't sneeze in front of people, but if I did and people would ask me that, I would cringe so hard. Ugh!   Especially if it's a family member. Double-UGH!

 

[Bondi]

3 hours ago, Chanel_no5 said:

I don't sneeze in front of people, but if I did and people would ask me that, I would cringe so hard. Ugh!   Especially if it's a family member. Double-UGH!

 

Agreed, especially if it's a family member.

One time I was talking to my mom on the phone and she asked if I had a cold. I didn't even sneeze. And I'm pretty sure I didn't have one either.

[doggo]

The Ultimate Flirt. If it was someone attractive to me asking, I would probably blush and perhaps instantly fall head over heels for him. If someone I'm not attracted to, I would find it embarrassing and hope they minded their own business. If a familymember, I would want to HIT SOMETHING HARD AND BLEACH MY EARS.