How did you get rid of your mental block?

[bingochamp7]

I have a mental block when it comes to sneezing in private and in public. I love my mental block when I'm around others, but my mental block runs so deep that I can't even sneeze in private. In private, I will get the tickle but if I plan on letting the sneeze out, I will lose the tickle 95% of the time. I really want to be able to sneeze in private so that I can enjoy the few times I do sneeze.

For those of you who have gotten rid of your mental block, how did you ease into letting sneezes out in public or private? Any input on the matter is much appreciated.

Edited February 12, 2022 by bingochamp7

[Melody]

I totally understand the desire to want to enjoy your own sneezes in private! I can’t believe how deep your mental block runs, wow! It must be strange to have this fetish but to virtually never partake in the act of sneezing yourself. 
 

I’m not sure if I’m tooo qualified to answer this one but I’ll try my best. I had an extremely strong mental block probably from the ages of 10 - 18, where I would pretty much never sneeze in private and would end up in the exact scenario you’re describing. Now I’m slowly getting over my mental block. I can sneeze normally in private and very often times in public around strangers. The only time my mental block really kicks in is when I’m around people I know but I am working on trying to get rid of this as well.

 I think getting rid of a mental block will look a bit different for everyone, because they are very psychological. So the first step to getting over it is to first reflect on why you have the mental block in the first place. Do you have the block because you’ll feel sexually exposed if you sneeze? Do you have it because it helps you maintain a sense of control? Do you not know why you have the block? It’s okay if you don’t, but I think most people have an inkling of why they have the block. 
 

I believe I developed a mental block because of some deep rooted insecurities I had about myself that were formed in early childhood. For a long time, I thought I was a hideous creature that no one could ever possibly find attractive. Because I felt that way about my own attractiveness I never wanted to “expose” myself sexually by sneezing. Which of course is irrational because 99.9 % of people don’t find sneezing sexual, but to me it is, so it remained akin to stripping or walking down the street in a bikini. I believed no part of me could ever be attractive to another person, so having a mental block was a way for me to stay in control and remain “unseen.” I thought to myself, gee, no one will ever judge my attractiveness if I never sneeze (as if that warped idea makes sense 🤣). But anyway, as I got older I recognized my silly insecurity as the root of this mental block.
 

When I moved out on my own, I began to explore who I was and experience life without my parents. As I began living on my own I also began experiencing for the first time, interest from men and women. It began to dawn on me that I had some pretty bad body dysmorphia and that in actuality, I wasn’t ugly at all, because lots of people found me attractive. (I’m sorry if this sounds quite shallow there is a point to this I promise). I knew that physically I was attractive but internally i still didn’t really like myself. And quite frankly to get over this, I practiced some hard core self love. I tackled my negative emotions and destructive thought patterns. I read books, listened to podcasts, and began making my own decisions. I also had diverse sexual encounters with individuals that helped make me really comfortable with my sexuality and my body. All of these things gave me more confidence and trust in myself. Obviously this didn’t happen overnight but one day I looked in the mirror and came to a realization that I love who I am on the inside and i also love the beautiful feminine form I inhabit externally. And if I love myself and my sexuality, then why am i blocking this large part of my sexuality? I couldn’t find an answer to that question. It sort of just clicked in my brain that I shouldn’t stop myself from sneezing because doing that in a way, is me not fully accepting the weird but wonderful person I am. Obviously a lifelong block didn’t magically go away overnight. It first helped for me to sneeze in private to get myself used to giving in to the sensation. When I felt like I had to do it, I would consciously try and relax my body and my breathing  because I would often find myself getting tense. Sometimes in the beginning of this pursuit I would use chinnkinni or inducing to force myself to sneeze and get used to giving in and surrendering. Over time this worked and I was able to sneeze in private completely normally. Next, I slowly tried to sneeze in public but only around strangers. I did the same sort of thing and tried to relax my body and breath. It also helped to be in busy settings where I could easily blend in and become a part of the background noise. I would find I could sneeze successfully in busy places like subways and buses and restaurants where no one was noticing me anyway. Over time I kept doing this and sometimes my block still stops it but 90% of the time I’m able to do it normally.
 

Now I’m working on getting over my mental block around people I know which is incredibly hard lol. I think this is because sneezing is sexual so I’m sort of “flashing” myself to friends and family (ew) if I sneeze in front of them. I’m not sure if I’ll ever be able to get over this one lol. I’ve been practicing trying to sneeze in front of my boyfriend but my body is literally unable to do it when he is with me. Oddly if I’m in another room out of sight but still nearby where he can hear, I can sneeze. It’s like my body is trained to know when to do it and when not to do it 🤣

Sorry if this sounds corny or a long winded answer. Basically learning to love myself externally and internally and growing comfortable with my sexuality helped me get over the mental block. Practical things I did was set an intention ( I would remind myself I want to get over my mental block and why). I also made sure to take baby steps from sneezing alone to sneezing in front of strangers where I’d be seen but still very much unseen and unknown if that makes sense? I also always try to relax my body and breathing if I can. I’m now laughing at how detailed this answer is but I actually think my mental block runs sooo deep and is really about so much more than me sneezing. That’s why it was so important that I tackled this issue within myself and I’m still trying everyday! It’s a work in progress  

anyway, good luck! Maybe try one of the things I mentioned above? I think inducing is a very good way to force yourself to get over the block so maybe try that first when you are completely by yourself in your home where you absolutely know for sure that no one is coming home or will hear you. But I think the key to cracking it is to take a deep dive into your psyche and really reflect on why you have the block in the first place.

[bingochamp7]

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Hey, I just wanted to say thanks for all the advice in your post. It wasn’t corny at all and it was really helpful. From reading your response, I see that there are still some unresolved emotions about sneezing that I need to work through.

I have had this mental block for a long time and I didn’t even seriously consider the idea of letting out sneezes in private until last year.

I know why I have the block. Someone reacted negatively when I sneezed and since then, I felt ashamed to admit that it happened, let alone sneeze in private. It also has a lot to do with being bullied and criticized. Being able to control sneezing was the one thing I felt I had going for me and the sense of control I had whenever I could make the tickle go away helped me feel better about myself because the people who hurt me couldn’t control their sneezes whereas I could. Also, being bullied made me feel subhuman and unworthy of doing human things like sneezing. Just from thinking about it, if I can deal with the pain of being bullied and build my self-esteem, I might be able to let sneezes out in private.

Another dimension to this issue is the conservative attitudes towards sex I was raised with. I think becoming more comfortable with this fetish and sex in general will make me feel less weird about letting sneezes out in private since sneezing is a big part of my sexuality.

I think that setting an intention will really help me along with finding a place where I can do it without worrying if someone will hear me is a good first step. Not overthinking or being critical of the sneeze will also help me let it out.

Also, congrats on making strides towards getting rid of your mental block! Thanks for being such a great friend 

[Trynasneeze]

Basically just had to push through it. I used to deliberately blow my nose in public or fake sneeze to get used to it being no big deal

[bingochamp7]

On 2/17/2022 at 4:49 AM, Trynasneeze said:

Basically just had to push through it. I used to deliberately blow my nose in public or fake sneeze to get used to it being no big deal

This makes sense. I guess I just have to push through it.

[foreveranonomous]

Bingochamp7, are you photic at all? I used to have a mental block in private too when I was younger, but looking at a light when I already had to sneeze was what started to force me to get over the block (because it forced the sneeze out and didn’t give me the option to stop it). However, I still have a complete mental block around others, and I’m too embarrassed to blatantly look at a light in front of people to force a sneeze out. 

[bingochamp7]

On 6/4/2022 at 10:12 PM, foreveranonomous said:

Bingochamp7, are you photic at all? I used to have a mental block in private too when I was younger, but looking at a light when I already had to sneeze was what started to force me to get over the block (because it forced the sneeze out and didn’t give me the option to stop it). However, I still have a complete mental block around others, and I’m too embarrassed to blatantly look at a light in front of people to force a sneeze out. 

I’m not photic, I wish I were though. However, I can get a sneeze out using a bright light only when the tickle is intense. I’m in the same position as you. Now I can sneeze in private no problem and in front of fellow fetishists, but public is tough because I don’t get the urge at all. Thank you for sharing your experience and your suggestions! Much appreciated.