Question for the collective

[Engmanny]

Struggling with current fetish situ. Visiting site this vid, YouTube etc just not enough to scratch that fetish itch. Entering 40s feel I want to experiment a little more haven't told partner about fetish not sure how she'd feel. When she's sneezy or snotty that's normally enough. Thinking of visiting a professional  who might indulge me physical fetish needs but conflicted feels like cheating. 

[Agaba]

Hello! 

What I'd do is probably talk to your partner first. It's normal that you think that she'll react in a bad way (most of us do), but it might not be the case! Maybe she's accepting! 

But, if she's not willing to do it, I'd discuss this situation with her and, maybe, agree to something. Just make sure to understand her feelings too, as this might not make her comfortable. 

Anyways, good luck! 

Edited April 15, 2022 by Agaba

[SleepingPhlox]

There are two things the "collective" will never be able to answer: how your partner will react to the fetish, and whether she would consider you going elsewhere for it cheating.  There's only one person in the entire world who can answer that for you, and you gotta talk to her, man.  🙂

[Arvani]

There must be something to turning 40 that brings out the desire to explore the fetish more … because have been through very similar things myself recently.

 

I don’t have any good answers for you except to say I agree probably the best route is to talk it out. It’s not the easy route by any means, but it will tell you where you stand and then you can decide where to go from there. 
 

Let us know how it goes! Fingers crossed for you!