allergicto Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I'm really in trouble with this situation, i nedd to tell her but i don't know where to start from!can you help me please? with your experience!thanks Link to comment
Dawnie Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Well why do you need to tell her? I told my best friend, but it was because I wanted to. It was tough and I gave her all these clues and hoped she'd guess on her own. When I finally spitted it out, she was great with it. She thought it was cool and adorable. Link to comment
Sternuto Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Different people react differently.I told one freind, and she LOVED it. She would sneeze for my benefit all the time. (Hmmmm.... perhaps it was for her own benefit... now that I think about it.) I told another ... and she NEVER SNEEZED IN MY PRESENCE.... EVER! Were talkin' 3 years, here! How will your freind react? Link to comment
allergicto Posted January 28, 2008 Author Share Posted January 28, 2008 I need because i want of corse!i don't even know how she would react!thanks Link to comment
Guest dustbunni3 Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I had a sudden stroke of genius about a year back. If you feel like you can really trust your friend (were talking serious trust, like you would tell them everything you usu. didn't tell anyone even your parents trust) Then do it in a game of Truth or Dare. Play it so that both people playing answer the "truths" when they're asked. Then ask yuor friend a question like "what's the least expected thing that turns you on?" and then your friend answers, and then she asks you and you say as casually as possible/ with as little hesitation as possible (think "bandaid") "sneezes" and see how it goes from there. It is sooooooo a good ice breaker/ way to bring it up w/ out sounding weird and random. Link to comment
Mr Sneezy Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Dawnie beat me to one point, but I'll bring up another; if she reacts badly to this revelation, can you handle the friendship going pear-shaped. It's happened to me and I'd known the lady over 20 years. I had to allude to the point as she was installing some programs for me and couldn't exactly miss the sneezing files I had stored everywhere on this thing. I haven't seen her for four years. Think carefully. Caution is the watchword. Link to comment
allergicto Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 Thanks for your advices! Link to comment
chui Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 hmm... i guess i popped in on this late, but did you tell her? i hope it works out ok for you. ive told a couple of people in the same way....somehow we are talking about sex in general, and it tends to drift of into things that turn you on, and if they ask, i just tell them. from what ive seen, if you dont seem really nervous about it, but act as if you are confident about it, and that it isnt a big deal, then the people you tell will tend to react as if it really isnt anything unusual. like...they dont think its odd or anything....because i dont. im not sure if other people have had this same experience though.... Link to comment
allergicto Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 hey thak you chui , no I havent't told her yet!I'm just thinking on it !i hope to do it soon ... Link to comment
David Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Honestly, I've told a few of my female friends and it's been a great experience every time. It's not like they think you turn into this horny sex monster when you see them sneeze...it's just like, if you go to the beach and see hot girls in little clothing you're going to get turned on. Same with sneezing, it's kinda like them holding up a porn magazine in front of a normal person :-D Link to comment
brownsville Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I know kind of why you WANT to tell her, hun, i've had the same thing. But i'd worry that if it all wents tits up. it'd ruin the fetish for me. You have to also ask if it would kill the secrecy aspect of it, if it was all in the open? would you be prepared to take ribbing about it? I sometimes want to tell my friends, just because i'd like to share stuff with them. there is this lad i quite like in my group, and the other day he sneezed right in front of me! oh my god it was adorable! i was thrilled, and my friend said "did you see your guy again today?" and i almost wanted to go "yeah, and he sneezed!!" but instead i ended up kind of lying, i suppose, "yeah. i saw him a bit" etc..Also, i've had a few sticky situations where i've nearly been found out, and i've ended up saying "oh this thing happened today.. with something embarrassing..."For this reason, i've actually told my friends that i have a fetish, but i was honest and said i didn't want to tell them what it was. Some have accepted it as cool, some have pushed me or tried to trick me into confessing. From this reaction, my advice would be to broach the subject of fetishes with her and say you have some. if she freaks, then thats a big sign.Once one of my friends confessed she had a pretty weird fetish, and said to me "do you think i'm weird? honestly" i said well, we all have these, um, kinks...?" she said is there anything really weird thats turned you on? I pretty much told her, by saying "oh erm, once my ex sneezed on my breast and it really turned me on because it was so intimate, she reacted really well and said "yeah i can see that kind of" but then panicked halfway through, and retracted it, and went "oh that was a one off- its not like i get turned on by like random sneezing- i don't look it up on the net or anything! hahahah! as if!!" erm..yeah... So i knew i wasnt ready.So i can understand why you want to tell. I sometimes feel guilty because my friends have confided weird kinks in me and stuff, and i've gone "its cool, i understand.." And i feel hypocritical lying about such a big part of my life, but its up to you. my advice is take it in stages and test the water. the problem with THIS fetish is that everybody does it, and youve got to ask- will it make people feel uncomfortable to know? Think it over and good luck. x Link to comment
prisma Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I am not shy and all of my friends know. I tell all my boyfriends as well I have never ever had a bad recation Link to comment
justmistme Posted February 19, 2008 Share Posted February 19, 2008 my only input to that would be that i think men would be more accommodating to being told about the fetish than women. i cant say this for sure, or as a fact.. but its just how i see it. women ignore men in disgust in everyday life much more than men do women.. i just see a woman telling a man having a higher success rate than a man telling a woman. maybe im weird, or i have the wrong opinion of women. but i somehow see men not really being disgusted at all, and instead being presented with a new tool to help turn you on. while women would easily shy away, or think poorly of you. even if its just to save face.remember.. there are exceptions to everything! including this statement! Link to comment
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