How do I tell them?

[Guest Katu]

Hello.You see, I have the fetish, and I can rarely come on here because I don't want my mum to find out a bad way.

So,I was wondering, If people could give me some tips on how to tell my family about my fetish.

I'm pretty much starved for sneezes,cuz my mum watches me pretty much all the time,and I'm doing this in the kitchen on a laptop whil my mum's watching tv.

(I get to listen to sneezes while my dad's upstairs nd my mums at work.;D)

I think she thinks that I'm looking at Labradoodles.

Whenever I try to tell them, I get embarrased.

So...Tips please?

~Katu

[count tiszula]

Well, this is going to sound very negative, but I would say don't tell them. I've never told anyone in my family, and though things are different nowadays, I wouldn't tell anyone who wasn't both an intimate friend and a trustworthy friend. People don't like to mention it, but these things can backfire tremendously if you are unlucky or ill-judged. What if they tried to stop you coming here, or to limit your access specifically or generally? Or told everyone they know?

On the other hand, if you are on really good terms with your parents, how about this? Next time you tell your mother the details of how you last masturbated, throw in what you were masturbating over.

[cisforcookie22]

I would agree, I would say don't tell them. My reason is b/c then the next time anyone in your family who knows about the fetish sneezes or is near you when someone else sneezes, it will DEFINITELY be awkward. Personally, I would never tell anyone about my fetish, except maybe a SO, and even then...it's risky. I feel like this is just one of those fetishes that most people will never understand. I totally sympathize with you, though. Sometimes, I just want to stand up and shout, " I have a sneeze fetish!" and get it off my chest. In the long run, though, I think the benefits of keeping this one under wraps outweigh the benefits of telling people you know.

[Lynne]

I figure no way in hell do my parents need to know what turn me on sexually.

[Guest Katu]

Haha lol.

The reason is that I want to come on here regulary,not when my parents are busy. I want to come on here comfortably.Even while my mum is in the lounge.Which is where I am.

[whymilk]

There is NO WAY IN HELL I would ever tell my parents. I just delete the history

[Bondi]

Guess its up to you if you want to tell them. I personally wouldn't do it and I don't think I'd have good results at all with it but a few other members of this community have told their parents and they had good results, so I guess it all depends on what kind of parents you have and how you think they would respond to that sort of thing.

[Liberty Belle]

I have to agree with what most people here have said -- not only do I NOT want my parents to know, I have gone to great lengths to avoid them finding out.

It's absolutely, 100% none of their business, and frankly I'd probably feel like punching them if they ever tried to discuss any aspect of it with me.

[Trillium]

I figure no way in hell do my parents need to know what turn me on sexually.

God, yes -- nor do I want to know what turns them on! Talk about

[Helter Skelter]

Don't tell them...talk about awkward, especially if one of them sneezes around you. Why would you want your parents to know what turns you on?

[Vendetta]

why bother telling them? jeez..itd probably just cause confusion and not to mention akwardness...besides....youre relatives dont need to know about what turns you on sexually.. if i were you id just forget it and let it drop..i know id never tell my parents..they think im strange enough as it is

[sneezealot]

I AGREE WITH EVERYONE...EVEN IF U TOLD YOUR PARENTS, DO U THINK THEY WOULD LET YOU COME HERE....I THINK IT WOULD JUST MAKE IT WORSE FOR YOU....I NEVER DID AND NEVER WILL TELL ANYONE AT ALL

[Gruft]

I think perhaps there is a middle ground, where instead of telling them, you can have an adult discussion about the need for some privacy.

[shy guy]

I agree with everyone else: don't tell. I've never told anyone, except for trying to tell my ex-wife, and she didn't understand and just sort of blew it off (shortly before she blew me off

Seriously, though, being a sneeze fetishist isn't a fad, it's part of you, and you have to become comfortable with it on your own terms. You sound like you're a very good and respectful daughter, and as a parent myself I can appreciate your wanting to be up front about this, but I'm afraid it may not go well for you if you do tell. Keep it to yourself for now, and reconsider it later if it's still bothering you. As you become more comfortable with the community, you may not feel the need to tell as acutely as you do now.

[Morningsmith]

Do you really think you'd feeling comfortable coming to this website if your parents knew? I understand your feeling of confinement (I found this community before I had the privacy of my own computer as well), but, frankly, I don't think telling your parents is the solution to your problem. It's not like you could suddenly just log on here whenever you wanted. After all, this page is used to share material which people find sexually arousing, as well as to discuss issues related to our sexualities. Would you be comfortable visiting a pornographic website in the company of your parents, or participating in an online sex discussion group?

I certainly wouldn't. It doesn't really have to do with you keeping a secret. If you feel that this fetish is important enough in your life that you need to tell your parents, maybe you should. I wouldn't, but it's your call. But I really don't think it would ever be appropriate to use this website with them around. I definitely agree with what Gruft says - what it sounds like you really need is more privacy.

Hope this helps. These situations are a drag.

[Feta Sneeze]

I didn't tell my own parents. They found out. I have to say, it's been VERY VERY VERY awkward since then. Luckily I've moved out since, but still...when it just happens, it's just...weird. So, in my humble opinion, I would advise against doing so. But if it's what you prefer, then go for it. Just giving you my own two cents.

[Guest Keyalla]

if you want to tell them, thats fine, but it will be akward.

[UnexploredFetish]

I figure no way in hell do my parents need to know what turn me on sexually.

E X A C T L Y

There's NO way (or really any reason) that my parents need to know. I'd keep that to myself especially with such a sensitive subject. There's really no perks to them knowing, in fact it would simplymake things A W K W A R D. Tell a friend or something (if you must), but not your parents. Some things just simply do not need to be shared amongst family.

[Guest UncommonCold]

I think perhaps there is a middle ground, where instead of telling them, you can have an adult discussion about the need for some privacy.

Ya, I agree with that. I don't think I'd tell my parents. You can just browse the pages and if they're like my parents, they won't care. Oh, and a headphone helps if you don't want them to hear sneeze wavs.

But if they ever find out, I have my reasons ready. Do you know why sneezing turns you on? If you have reasons, you wouldn't look so freakish to them. As for me I'd quote my friend on my colds fetish. (A friend in real life too! Our fetish isn't as rare as we think it is.) She said, "Well, when someone has a cold, they're vulnerable and that's cute. Coughing and sneezing also render them helpless. Oh, and the rosy nose and cheeks!"

[Candy]

Yeah, a middle ground should be possible...Ask for more privacy. I agree with MorningSmith, just like I don't particularly need my parents to know when I'm masturbating, I wouldn't really want them to know when I was look at my fetish equivalent of porn :\