I wish I didn't not have the fetish

[Bless you, Hi]

No question, the fetish adds a level of sexual pleasure that I truly feel is ageless attraction. If I closed my eyes and heard a fantastic sneeze from an older woman whom Ive never seen, it's still a turn on. But, I truly wish this was something I could simply turn off and on. If you've seen my "Sneezers + Facebook" posts, yes I've posted some top 1% level content. But for me, as good at the fetish is when it hits, it's something that is at best distracting and at worst obsessive. I know this is a page to indulge on something we all enjoy, but to me I sometimes think this is a passion I wish I could apply my interest to other things. I wish I had the same relentless interest in my hobbies and work value as when the fetish hits hard and takes over my entire day. Thoughts?

[peach2218]

I don’t feel “obsessed” with it to that level, but when I’m ovulating I definitely dwell on it way more frequently than usual. 
 

I sometimes wish I didn’t have the fetish because I feel creepy. Lots of people on the forum have said that they don’t enjoy random sneezing in public and in videos because the person is unaware that they are causing arousal, and it would be creepy to get a sexual rise out of someone who is just trying to go about their day and sneeze in peace. But I’m pretty much exclusively attracted to spontaneous sneezing. Inducing/people making content specifically for the fetish doesn’t do much for me. It takes away that loss of control that I find attractive. 
 

So now, every time I’m in public and someone sneezes around me or I’m hoping to see a certain person sneeze, I feel like some sort of sexual predator or something. 

[Melody]

I hate this fetish. I always have and can't see my mind changing anytime soon. It complicates my romantic life, sexual life, and I often times feel creepy if I am attracted to a stranger sneezing against my will. If I could get rid of it, I'd love to do it.

[PapaBear70]

I actually do like having this fetish but as mentioned above, I'd like the ability to turn it off and on at will. There's certain times where I have to sneeze in public. I feel like if I didn't have this fetish, I wouldn't think twice about it and could feel "normal" doing it 

[kathleenh4656]

True, it's sometimes hard to turn off. I listen to sneezing in private. In public I keep a mask with me and put it on if I'm in a crowded area. So far, so good.

[jvnrmnd]

Yeah, it can be tough ... I've found that indulging in the fetish when I'm by myself using this forum or other forms of internet content helps me manage it better in public. It's a really hard game of mental and emotional separation, but it can be done. I'm sure you can find a healthy way to work with your fetish and instead of against it. In the right place and at the right time, it's enjoyable and a lot of fun, and I hope you'll get there soon.

[jvnrmnd]

Also I wouldn't really call being attracted to others creepy. I see how it could be viewed that way because this fetish is so deeply rooted and connected with all kinds of desires in many of us, but I don't think it's much different from feeling attraction to someone due to their physical appearance (a.k.a the common standard social norm). Similar to physical appearance, as long as you don't make others uncomfortable (like if you were into butts, you wouldn't stare at someone's ass but respectfully acknowledge the person for having something you enjoy), it's perfectly fine to find enjoyment in a good sneeze. You don't have to feel bad for the way your brain is wired. 

[ALSF]

I think we all have started to feel this way to some extent, because as time goes on more and more people have come out and realized they're being harassed by people about it, so why would we want to post more clips just for the sneezer to go be harassed? Sneezing is at its core such a wholesome and sweet thing to be into, but sadly the inability to turn it off has made a lot of us feel icky. When I can really divulge my secret to a trusted person to indulge with, I feel so special, but sadly I have shared it with more and more people to the point where I fear it won't be so "secret" at some point, and the feeling of being exposed sometimes ruins my ability to shut everything off and enjoy the fetish. 

 

All I can try to do is put as much positive energy into the world as I can and hope people are understanding and forgiving. If I was able to eschew the inherent feelings of obsession and guilt, I would actually feel really proud to have this unique experience, as there are so many different exciting kinds of sneezes, and I love what it represents and I love the idea of making an allergy ridden girl feel special about something she was otherwise embarrassed of. Sadly, the planets have to align for that to happen, and more often than not people end up just being creeped out. We have been given a great "power" almost, so we just have to be as responsible with it as we can.

[David]

I have a love/hate relationship with the fetish.  In an unrelated area, I don't like being touched at all (like hugs or handshakes make me want to crawl out of my body) so having sex is almost like torture, so it's convenient to have something to be intensely turned on by besides "normal people things".  I'm not sure whether I'd be more or less unhappy if I didn't have it to fall back on.

[Heathcliff]

On 3/18/2024 at 9:59 PM, Bless you, Hi said:

But for me, as good at the fetish is when it hits, it's something that is at best distracting and at worst obsessive. I know this is a page to indulge on something we all enjoy, but to me I sometimes think this is a passion I wish I could apply my interest to other things. I wish I had the same relentless interest in my hobbies and work value as when the fetish hits hard and takes over my entire day. Thoughts?

Young men very often spend far too much time thinking about sex, or sexual things... when I was younger, even when I was having very little (or no) sex I was thinking about it far too much. And about sneezing, of course.

I sometimes think too that if I hadn't spent as much time in the past thinking about sex, women, sneezing etc. (or doing other things which don't seem to matter now) and concentrated on my hobbies or work, would I have done better?

If you didn't have the fetish, some other sexual thoughts would distract you a lot as you're young (unless you're an asexual person - but I think that is pretty rare). There is enough time in life to think about sneezing and enjoy it, and do some good work, studying and hobbies too.

If the fetish is taking over entire days for you, then try and be a bit more disciplined with yourself. It doesn't have to be that way. If your Facebook thread, or whatever is taking too much time, maybe take a break from it?

[Demosthenes]

On 3/18/2024 at 2:59 PM, Bless you, Hi said:

as good at the fetish is when it hits, it's something that is at best distracting and at worst obsessive.

I definitely relate to this.  It is so easy to get caught up obsessively thinking about sneezing that it's hard to concentrate on anything else.  But I don't wish I didn't have the fetish.  Not even sure what that would be like.  It's almost like the ridiculous "wish I'd never been born" thing.  For me nothing compares to the pleasure this fetish brings, even if it is kind of a hassle that ruins my life sometimes.  I sometimes wonder if people with a vanilla porn addiction feel the same.

[Heathcliff]

42 minutes ago, Demosthenes said:

 I sometimes wonder if people with a vanilla porn addiction feel the same.

I may be being a kink-snob here, but vanilla porn (at least, some of it) seems a million times less wholesome than the fetish to me.

I'm not denying the fetish can make some of us behave obsessively at times, or that there are some less-than-pleasant fetishists around. But being completely honest, that is how I feel.

[asapyams]

On 3/19/2024 at 1:45 PM, PapaBear70 said:

I actually do like having this fetish but as mentioned above, I'd like the ability to turn it off and on at will. There's certain times where I have to sneeze in public. I feel like if I didn't have this fetish, I wouldn't think twice about it and could feel "normal" doing it 

I think about this too, also how weird I feel when other people sneeze around me, especially family. Having to witness my parents sneeze is so disturbing to me.

[BelieveInRollins]

So it does have its pros and cons. 
I guess it may depend on the person because I’ve told 4 people including my fiance and they all found it fascinating although everytime my fiance sneezes he smiles and blows me a kiss because he knows I enjoyed it lol

but yeah when I’m trying to carry on my normal life and hear a good sneeze from a stranger it does make me feel a bit creepy. And also uncomfortable because I feel exposed but I’m not idk if that makes sense. 

[PapaBear70]

11 hours ago, asapyams said:

I think about this too, also how weird I feel when other people sneeze around me, especially family. Having to witness my parents sneeze is so disturbing to me.

Yes definitely. Family sneezes are a huge cringe for me.... I get so incredibly uncomfortable 😬

[iojo]

18 hours ago, asapyams said:

I think about this too, also how weird I feel when other people sneeze around me, especially family. Having to witness my parents sneeze is so disturbing to me.

I'm the same way! its always so weird to me

[NoV]

18 hours ago, asapyams said:

Having to witness my parents sneeze is so disturbing to me.

I think you speak for the vast majority of sneeze fetishists out there when you say this  I was also very much in denial about it when I lived at home and had to witness this - it took moving away before I was able to fully embrace it.  

[kathleenh4656]

On 3/18/2024 at 6:16 PM, peach2218 said:

I don’t feel “obsessed” with it to that level, but when I’m ovulating I definitely dwell on it way more frequently than usual. 
 

I sometimes wish I didn’t have the fetish because I feel creepy. Lots of people on the forum have said that they don’t enjoy random sneezing in public and in videos because the person is unaware that they are causing arousal, and it would be creepy to get a sexual rise out of someone who is just trying to go about their day and sneeze in peace. But I’m pretty much exclusively attracted to spontaneous sneezing. Inducing/people making content specifically for the fetish doesn’t do much for me. It takes away that loss of control that I find attractive. 
 

So now, every time I’m in public and someone sneezes around me or I’m hoping to see a certain person sneeze, I feel like some sort of sexual predator or something. 

After the change happened, or maybe it still is, my mind plays tricks on me once a month.

For a day or two during that time, I can't completely turn off the arousal feelings when I hear sneezes. They're calmer if I'm in public.