Sneeze fetishist dating?

[dustydreams86]

I don't know, maybe I haven't had enough time to mull this issue over in my head, so this will be spontaneous rambling..

The guy I'm with has never heard of this website, and I told him about the fetish quite a while ago. Now, I know non-fetishists can sometimes be cutting and judgemental, but mine wasn't at all. We have an awesome relationship, and he's begun to really warm up to the fetish thing, and he induces for me quite often, simply because he knows I enjoy it so much. I think, when it comes to an online sneeze-fetish dating site, you aren't opening up a large enough window for common ground. Like, my SO and I have a lot more in common than the whole fetish thing, and I don't know if a dating forum of this nature would produce fruitful, meaningful relationships. I'm sure it has the potential to do so, just like any dating forum.(You can't reverse fate, no matter what you do ) But I feel that people shouldn't assume they're going to meet someone wonderful and a potential life partner or whatever you're looking for merely on the basis that you both appreciate something that sexually arouses you. Like, you wouldn't start dating a guy if the one thing you had in common was that you both liked watching porn, would you?

I just think the forum is serving this purpose as it is....just my opinion. *Runs and hides under a bush* Please don't be offended!

[YiffySneeze]

Some of us, though, might find it difficult to find someone as kind, Dusty. Not all people are as open or willing to induce. Some people are nice enough to try, but just don't like it at all.

As for the poll, that's a good idea. I'll see if I can start one.

-Yiffy

[TeamCaptain]

LOL, I think a lot of people are taking the dating thing way too seriously. I don't imagine many would be jumping into relationships just because the site would exist. Keep in mind the geographical diversity of people on this forum. The site would be a place to flirt, get to know, and possibly meet fellow fetishists. Really, the only difference between the proposed site and this site is that it'd be a place to go for people who are interested in meeting fellow fetishists and are intrigued by the possibility of having an intimate relationship with them.

Honestly, what's the downside risk?

[Lynne]

There is a lot of downside risk, especially for the female portion of the forum population. I have met *counts on fingers* seven people from this forum, all of them men (only dated a couple though... the rest were just friendly get-togethers). My first meeting could have been EXTREMELY dangerous had the man I was meeting not been a decent sort. I was alone in a strange country (let alone a strange city), nine hundred miles from home, alone with a guy who could have done whatever he wanted to me and no one would have been the wiser. Now, granted, I'm thirty-two years old and know how to take care of myself... I did my research before going to meet him (knew the possible routes to get back to the city, to the airport, to the Canadian consulate), but it could still have been dangerous. The guy I'm dating now lives on another CONTINENT, and we only get to see each other three or four times a year. I think what you're looking for is a casual hookup site, not a dating site. Some people take dating a lot more seriously than others, and some people take advantage of that (trust me... been there).

You may not think it's such a big deal, but you're a guy. You can't possibly understand how vulnerable even the toughest girls can become when a man tries to force himself on her. Granted, when I flew off to England in December, I already knew the person I was going to meet quite well, as he'd been to visit me several times, but that first trip to Chicago was simply stupid, and I did get burned eventually. What would happen if we set up a dating site and some old perv, making himself out to be a young guy, hurt or took advantage of one of our female members? There are people here with whom I've arranged to meet that I've backed out of at the last minute because I simply didn't feel comfortable enough meeting them alone, even for just a friendly dinner. And these are people I've gotten to know quite well in the last four years. Even with REGULAR dating sites, you're taking a risk every time you show up to one of those things.

Should someone else wish to start such a site, good for them. But it won't be happening here.

[chui]

while i wholeheartedly agree with the concept of using common ground to form a relationship, i still think, and agree with many others' opinions, that setting up a site based initially on the sneezing fetish has the potential for many problems. im not saying it would never work, and i do think that for people specifically looking to get together with another fetishist it could be a wonderful resource, but i personally would want nothing to do with it. neither in a management nor a participant capacity. i think given the occurance of sharking that is so prevalent here, that it would be even worse on a dating site. and i have to agree with Lynne about the inherent dangers that can be associated with interent dating. if it were properly policed, with some level of background checking, and some assurances of safety, i might have less concern, but as is, i would be very nervous about any of my friends being involved in such a site. also, it seems to me that the number of participants would be very low, as it would be based out of the fetish community, and then further lessened to the interested members, giving a very "small selection" to choose from. many other dating sites involve thousands of members, if not more. it seems to me that this would be lucky to have a couple of hundred, if that many, with no guarantees of meeting a compatible person. also, what other characteristics would be accented? would there be personality profiling? or just a pool of men and women to pick through?

[TeamCaptain]

The problem with what you're saying, Lynne, is that the risk that you mention is prevalent all the time, meaning that it'll be there whether it's a dating site like Lavalife, a networking site like Facebook, etc. Anytime you arrange to meet someone that you've met online (which I've never done), there's the inherent risk of that person being a wacko. Ways to mitigate that risk, I would guess, include having conversations over the phone, having first dates exclusively in public places, etc.

What you're saying is basically comparable to advising someone not to eat because you run the risk of choking to death. The risk that you mention (vulnerability to a guy) is something that women are exposed to every day, whether it's at work, walking down the street, being out at a nightclub, etc. I understand that the risks may be higher if you're talking about someone you've never met before, but the mitigation techniques I mentioned above should help, as should the simple practice of not rushing into anything.

I respect your opinion, but to me, the risk you mention is pretty prevalent in society as is. That, and there's pretty much nothing I'd love more than to explore the possibility of a relationship with a fellow fetishist Mmmm

[Lynne]

Yes, the risk is prevalent all the time, and that's an excellent reason for this site to have nothing to do with it. That was the point I was trying to make.

Another way to look at it is this: This is a site based on sexual content. Do you really think it's a good idea to base a dating site on that? An escort service, maybe, but not relationship-type stuff. If you want to date a fetishist, get to KNOW one, TALK to people. I've been with my current boyfriend for over a year, and we met right here

[TeamCaptain]

Well, you yourself said that you've met 7 people or whatever directly from this forum, and you're still alive and well, so what does that tell ya? Pretty significant sample size, if you ask me

And as for it being sexual in nature, what's wrong with that? Let me preface this next sentence by claiming that I'm not a Lavalife member or a member to any other dating site, but if I was, I'm going to be looking for people that I'm physically attracted to first. If you ask me, yes, you have to get to know them, yes, you have to communicate, but you also have to have a physical attraction to them, which is arguably the most important of all.

I don't see how it's a bad thing for it to be sexual - get it all out there and in the open, and there will be more honesty and less maneouvering in the relationship.

[Lynne]

I've met seven people on the forum, but I've met them *all* in public places, and only after having gotten to know them on the forum and off over the course of months, and in some cases, years. There are MANY people here that I would simply refuse to meet outright, and there are others that I have gotten to know quite well that I'd like to meet, but not on my own. Let's agree to disagree, and you can take it to the bank that it won't be happening on THIS site

[Thorne]

Hmm,

Honestly, I don't see the harm. I think a sneeze fetish related dating site would probably be a good idea.

I'm thinking, a free quick way to start it up until something better comes along would possibly be to start a group on Myspace?

I don't know, either way, good luck with it if it happens.

[prisma]

I also think it would be a good idea

[Danny]

I also think it would be a good idea

I agree, its a good idea, and if someone like Lynne does not like it he/she does not have to participate, its as easy as this in my humble opinion Cheers D.

[Lynne]

No, I don't have to participate, and I wouldn't. I'm simply saying it ain't gonna happen on this forum

[Vetinari]

Nothing wrong with dating a fetishist in my book, in fact I wish I'd had access to this place years ago. Perhaps I'm naive and old fashioned.....but is there anything wrong with chatting to people on the forum, getting to know them and then agreeing to meet up if you like them?

Obviously it has worked already for a number of people. Is it really too much effort?

[Guest WalterDESneeze]

You cannot date someone simply for the fetish, however if you are otherwise compatible it solves a few problems and guarantees physical fulfilment. Like all dating, it will have good and bad experiences.

[The Mute Poet]

Well, in my opinion both sides of this argument do make valid points, but I think I'd have to lean toward the camp that it's just not a good idea to have it associated with the site. All the risks Lynne and everyone else have mentioned are definitely very real concerns, but there's another thing that worries me that I'm not sure we've thought about here - there have already been several mentions of how alot of our female members have been sharked by people who've joined the site soley with the intention of fulfilling their sexual urges who basically had no intention of positively contributing to the sneezing fetishist community whatsoever. That said, I don't think it's unrealistic to assume that there are tons of people like this, lurking around the site, maybe for the media (our aforementioned inappropriate youtube comment dickwads) that would spend an awful lot more time around here if this place offered the potential of interested single girls instead of just all that tame intellectual conversation. And that could pose a real problem (for both the members of said dating site, and those who don't choose to participate) in the form of an increase in sharking and just an overall decline in the amount of honest, quality people joining this community.

Don't get me wrong, Captain, or anyone else who advocates a site where people with the fetish can meet... I just think that we have just that right here in the form of the forum, WITHOUT many of the downsides of modern dating sites - all we have to do is put forth a little bit of effort to find out who's looking. In my opinion it's not worth the trouble to skip one step in the process...

[spin721]

No, I don't have to participate, and I wouldn't. I'm simply saying it ain't gonna happen on this forum

I know that I post very rarely....but as a male, I agree with Lynne. She makes a lot of sense.

After reading all of these posts, they all have a level a validity. But I would think that a woman who would venture into some type of "dating site" for sneezing fetishists would really be in a difficult situation and I think possibly dangerous situation.

I say this simply: I am a MALE and I used to (THAT IS used to) post my videos on You Tube and you would not believe some of the things that I would receive.

Lynne is so very correct.

And it seems like a lot of people are giving Lynne garbage for her telling the truth. She met her significant other on here WITHOUT a dating site. Take a note from what she is telling you and do the same.

She has to defend herself because why? PLEASE explain that to me.

[Sternuto]

Alrighty then.

Are there any 16, 17 or 18 year old, cute, sexy, sneezy Playmate wannabees out there looking for a naughty time? Call Sternuto.

See the danger kiddies?

But, seriously.... if there are any such girls here.... gimme a call!

[Alucard]

Hmmm... Sneeze Fetishist dating, eh? I think I has the potential to be kind of fun, but as Lynne (along with other members) already mentioned it has the potential to become kind of dangerous too. I would be willing to give it a shot, provided there were people living relatively close to me who would participate, that is.

[colorado198219]

I dont think I would want to know how a date sneezes before I heard them sneeze the first time. I mean if I dated a person based on sneezing it would seem sort of shallow to me. I think it would be counterproductive to go out on a date based on almost exclusively on sneezes when emotionally or interest wise didnt have much in common.

I would love to be dating someone with sneezing fits, but for some reason I just really want a date's sneeze to be a suprise and if I knew how they sneezed or talked to them prior it just would take away some of the magic for me!

[Stranut]

A few years back there was actually a dating site based on people's sexual preferences, even fetishes, in Romania.

I did sign-up but never found the guts to contact any member listed in the "Sneezing Fetish Community".

I regret it now since, in the past few years, I've been very interested to get to know someone from Romania who actually has the sneezing fetish...no such luck though...seems like all those who have the sneezing fetish live in other parts of the planet and I'm here all by my own

[ilovesneezing]

I'm sitting on the fence with this one. I think its a very interesting idea, but we all know the perils of the internet. Having met one person, who incedently turned out to be exactly who she said she was, I still dont trust it.

Thats not to say that we can't swap msn or IM adds with people, and get to perhaps know someone that way.

Thats my 2cents anyway

[resolution]

The "dangers" of the idea are actually the dangers of the internet....which are actually the dangers of behaving foolishly when dealing with the internet.

The biggest problem would probably become the problem of (mostly) females serious about pursuing relationships being engaged by men who turned out to be simple sharks, and eventually becoming exasperated with the whole idea. Imagine women if you ended up on a dream date with one of those wonderful Youtube commenter fellows. The ironic thing is that if such a site were to exist the best way to sift the sharks out would be through a secondary forum like this one, but too many powerful people are against the idea of any connection between this site and the proposed site; I can't say that their opposition is entirely without merit, it's a complex question.

[sneeze catcher]

I think it's a great idea. Anyone looking to date another sneeze fetish pretty much has an idea of where the date is going. Now it's just to separate the good from the bad. To comment on Trillium's post. She's right as far as for profit. The cost would be too great for the amount of the return. Most people here are hiding behind the computer out of fear. As one who has met people from this forum. I found them to be very good people. I enjoy and enjoyed being in their company. It is a wonderful experience to become close to someone you can trust with you're most deepest secret. As for those I don't get to see often. You know who you are and I miss you...........

[ilovesneezing]

I do have to agree with that comment^

I think there is an element of trust with someone that shares a secret that you do, but again, I'm extremely wary of the internet - it is both the best and worst invention ever.